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Hey Hun, I met this guy when In a restaurant it turned out that he was the owner. We couldn’t keep our eyes off eachother and he finally decided to approach me. We spoke abit and he kept telling me how beautiful he thought I was. For some reason I had the urge to ask if he had a gf, so I did. To that he responded No! We exchanged numbers and was texting. Like the stalker I am I decided to try and find his instagram..low and behold there were pictures of him and his girl all loved up on holiday together etc. I confronted him about and he apologised for lying. He said I was just so beautiful and we had a connection. I decided to leave it cut him off but I would think about him all day everyday. 2 months later he has messaged me sayin how he can’t stop thinkin about me, i’m always on his mind etc. I don’t know what to do because we’ve started speaking again he says he doesn’t want to be with his gf anymore and will break it off but its very difficult. He messages me every single morning and we speak on the phone. I need your help pleaseee?!
12. January 2017
Hey hun! I wouldn’t to tell you to go through with this. He’s lied before and seems like a complete dishonest person. If you do decide to start going out with him would you truly be able to say you can trust him? Think about it carefully dear.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I’m 34. I recently met a guy who’s 41, tall, has a great job and matches my ambitious nature. No kids so no baby-mama drama. So on paper he sounds great. However, when he kissed me the other day l felt nothing. Not a single thing. Dry as the Sahara. He however, couldn’t stop going on about how amazing the kiss was. Since that day every time he tries to kiss me l have to do some ninja moves to avoid it. When he goes in to cuddle me it feels awkward and l don’t like it. It kinda almost feels like abuse. We have not had sex bcoz l’m just not feeling it or him. What’s wrong with me? I honestly don’t understand why l feel nothing bcoz he’s a good man.
12. January 2017
Hey girl, there’s no spark and a part of you is forcing yourself to like him, because ultimately he’s a good guy on paper. But just because he’s a ‘good guy’ doesn’t mean it’s meant to be, he could become a good friend instead. Think about this more, and also look at your past dating history. Does this always happen or is this new?
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my friend and roommate wears teeny tiny booty shorts around the house, even when I have a potential beau over. I’ve asked her if she could wear something else when he’s round but her view is that she should wear what she wants in her own home. How do I approach this without causing a fight?
12. January 2017
Hey , so me and this guy have been seeing each other for a few months, but we never became item. I asked him what his intentions are and I told him I’d like more. He said he’s not ready for a relationship but he still wants me in his life. So I said fair enough. I guess what I’m asking is I don’t know what I should do. I really like him and care for him as a person. I get along with him well and still want him in my life. I’m just confused as to what my next step is.
8. January 2017
If you both don’t want the same thing, your next move should be to thank him for his time and leave.
Oloni
Hey girl (love u by the way ), let me get straight to it , after being in a relationship for 5 years me and my ex broke up July last year. I was devastated although being unhappy for some time I became extremely comfortable with him and honestly didn’t see myself having that kind of connection with anyone else. Moving on. We had a very messy break up and I was heartbroken. I took time to heal about 3 weeks I shut myself away from the world. I would go work but I’d come home and pretty much be in my room. 3 weeks later my cousin invited me around to her house for some drinks she had invited a friend of ours (male) and he brought a friend. This particular friend I met a year ago at a friends bday party we briefly spoke but nothing memorable. I got there, we were all chilling vybzing etc. Felt good to be out the house. Me and the friend of a friend let’s call him Q…we hit it off instantly. He was just like me. We had the same intrested. Same humour same views on several things. Everything was great. We had sex that night. It was.. INCREDIABLE ( he eat my ? Put his dick In took it out and ate me till I came ?) I fell in love instantly. Anyways honestly I didn’t want anything serious I was Okay with hooking up. 4 months down the line… I’ve spend every weekend with him. At least see him two weekdays a week. Speak to him through the day constantly. He tells me loves me. I think I love him too but how can I just love someone so quickly after loving somebody else. This is so new to me, could it be a rebound ?? My feelings feel genuine will they last ?? I think he’s the one But how can I know 🙁
8. January 2017
Hey hun, thank you. Jealous of your sex story btw lol.
No all relationships or love interests after a break up are always a rebound. It is very possible for you to make a genuine connection with someone new after a relationship ends. That’s the thing about love, it’s so unexplainable. I will say this though, be patient with your feelings and give yourself time to still get to know this new dude.
Oloni
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