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Hi Oloni. I’m 34. I recently met a guy who’s 41, tall, has a great job and matches my ambitious nature. No kids so no baby-mama drama. So on paper he sounds great. However, when he kissed me the other day l felt nothing. Not a single thing. Dry as the Sahara. He however, couldn’t stop going on about how amazing the kiss was. Since that day every time he tries to kiss me l have to do some ninja moves to avoid it. When he goes in to cuddle me it feels awkward and l don’t like it. It kinda almost feels like abuse. We have not had sex bcoz l’m just not feeling it or him. What’s wrong with me? I honestly don’t understand why l feel nothing bcoz he’s a good man.
12. January 2017
Hey girl, there’s no spark and a part of you is forcing yourself to like him, because ultimately he’s a good guy on paper. But just because he’s a ‘good guy’ doesn’t mean it’s meant to be, he could become a good friend instead. Think about this more, and also look at your past dating history. Does this always happen or is this new?
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my friend and roommate wears teeny tiny booty shorts around the house, even when I have a potential beau over. I’ve asked her if she could wear something else when he’s round but her view is that she should wear what she wants in her own home. How do I approach this without causing a fight?
12. January 2017
She’s your friend, so have another conversation with her. You both live there and asking her to dress appropriately shouldn’t be too much to ask for. She’s not being considerate if she ignores your simple wishes again, however this allows you to know the type of person she is, so pay attention.
Hey , so me and this guy have been seeing each other for a few months, but we never became item. I asked him what his intentions are and I told him I’d like more. He said he’s not ready for a relationship but he still wants me in his life. So I said fair enough. I guess what I’m asking is I don’t know what I should do. I really like him and care for him as a person. I get along with him well and still want him in my life. I’m just confused as to what my next step is.
8. January 2017
If you both don’t want the same thing, your next move should be to thank him for his time and leave.
Oloni
Hey girl (love u by the way ), let me get straight to it , after being in a relationship for 5 years me and my ex broke up July last year. I was devastated although being unhappy for some time I became extremely comfortable with him and honestly didn’t see myself having that kind of connection with anyone else. Moving on. We had a very messy break up and I was heartbroken. I took time to heal about 3 weeks I shut myself away from the world. I would go work but I’d come home and pretty much be in my room. 3 weeks later my cousin invited me around to her house for some drinks she had invited a friend of ours (male) and he brought a friend. This particular friend I met a year ago at a friends bday party we briefly spoke but nothing memorable. I got there, we were all chilling vybzing etc. Felt good to be out the house. Me and the friend of a friend let’s call him Q…we hit it off instantly. He was just like me. We had the same intrested. Same humour same views on several things. Everything was great. We had sex that night. It was.. INCREDIABLE ( he eat my ? Put his dick In took it out and ate me till I came ?) I fell in love instantly. Anyways honestly I didn’t want anything serious I was Okay with hooking up. 4 months down the line… I’ve spend every weekend with him. At least see him two weekdays a week. Speak to him through the day constantly. He tells me loves me. I think I love him too but how can I just love someone so quickly after loving somebody else. This is so new to me, could it be a rebound ?? My feelings feel genuine will they last ?? I think he’s the one But how can I know 🙁
8. January 2017
Hey hun, thank you. Jealous of your sex story btw lol.
No all relationships or love interests after a break up are always a rebound. It is very possible for you to make a genuine connection with someone new after a relationship ends. That’s the thing about love, it’s so unexplainable. I will say this though, be patient with your feelings and give yourself time to still get to know this new dude.
Oloni
I’ve been having sex with my ex’s half brother for a while, he has a girlfriend, he says he’s going to break up with her within the next few weeks, should I come to his girlfriend as a woman (fucking up the chance of us being together) or wait for him to break up with her?
8. January 2017
This is so messy. Why would you even want a relationship with him? Your ex’s half brother and he’s clearly cheating. Aren’t you bothered by any of this? I think you should leave his girlfriend alone.
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