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Hi oloni, my girlfriend just tweeted a pic of Anthony Joshua after his win saying and I quote “I’m ready to risk it all for him”. And then another picture with him top less with emoji heart eyes. Now I’m not ugly but I have put on a little weight because of exams and this has made me spin. I’m lowkey ready to lock it off because this is disrespect on another level. When I liked a picture of a friend I went secondary school with on insta she went mad at me and now she goes and does this. Any tip because we’ve already had an argument and she hasn’t apologised yet and it’s making me rage
1. May 2017
It’s a bit worrying that she’d be mad over a like on a photo when it’s an old school friend.
Saying she’d risk it all for Anthony Joshua is disrespectful to your relationship. Risk what exactly? :/ (I know the answer btw)
Give each other space and explain again without arguing HOW it made you feel.
You can appreciate someones beauty, without disrespecting your relationship.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’m currently 21 and have had 6 sexual partners… however I have been feeling like I want to explore myself sexually for the past couple of months, especially in terms of enjoying different men and just getting to know what I like sexually and enjoy different types of sex. Of course it will be safe but I just wanted to know your thoughts on this? Does this make me sound like a hoe? Is this normal?
1. May 2017
Hey hun! As long as you’re safe and responsible I think you should embrace your sexuality.
Oloni
I’ve been dating someone for 2 months and everything was perfect until he said to me he doesn’t want to get married young (he’s 27, I’m 24) he talking about after his been with his girl for maybe 10 years…. then he dropped another ball saying after living with his sister he will never live with another female again. My response was so what about your partner? He said we can live separately nothing wrong with that. His reasoning is that his mum and dad divorced after 23 years and he kicked her out with nowhere to go? That’s a 100 per cent no my view of how relationships should work, number 1 I’m not wasting more than 3/4 years with a man with no ring and number 2 I want to live with my partner. Should I cut things off or wait a bit and revisit the conversation since it was premature?
1. May 2017
You’ve been dating for 2 ordinary months. 60 days sis.. carry your load and run.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, do you think it’s ok for your man to comment on other girl’s butts/breast? Cos it makes me uncomfortable.
1. May 2017
No, that’s not okay. Especially if it’s not even like a celebrity or something… and even then it’s still not really okay.
Speak to him.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so my boyfriend has broke up with me because someone has said to him I have cheated which isn’t true, he won’t give me any information about who said it and he’s made it clear he’s done with me unless I admitt to cheating but as I haven’t cheated I’m not going to admit to something I haven’t done, I don’t know what to do as I’m in complete shock as to why anyone would say that, I really don’t know what to do
1. May 2017
Your boyfriend sounds stupid. He can’t accuse you of something with no evidence or at least zero info. If that’s how he’s going to act, then leave him be till he comes to his senses. You haven’t done anything wrong, so don’t even worry about it.
Oloni
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