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I met a guy who ticks all my boxes. One day we were discussing our past and it turns out I had sex with his cousin that he’s not close to 4 yrs ago. He said he can’t get over that and we decided to be close friends. We had sex but I still really really really like him. He’s perfect for me. However, he told me he wants to be in a long term relationship. I offered to hook him up with my cousin because I thought this will make me move on from him. I also sent him a long message that I want to leave the friend zone because I am tired of acting like a gf and still being a friend. We haven’t talked for a few days and I miss him. How do I move on? Should I tell my cousin about me and him because they have started talking now.
8. May 2017
Why would you hook up your cousin with someone you like? … Sis are you trying to make life harder for yourself? You need to leave this guy alone. He’s expressed how he feels, so respect it and find someone new who can tick even more boxes.
Oloni
Why I Decided To Stop Faking My Orgasms
Hey Oloni, I’m in need of assistance. So me and my boyfriend of 3 months went out drinking and he said to me “I dare you to kiss that girl” obviously I was taken back and didn’t do it and we ended up arguing. He took my phone off me for over an hour whilst I was hysterically crying and he was hysterically laughing in my face. He also called me a “slag” and choked me so I would listen to him. I really do like him but he’s scared me and made a fool of me and I really don’t know what to do.
8. May 2017
Leave this psychopath.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year now. She’s my life. And I love her with all my heart. I’ve tried everything I can to make her happy but there’s always a guy problem. Two weeks ago, she went to a party with her friends, and well she met this professional football player who she really liked. The guy invited her to his room that he was staying and she went and slept over with him, she claims nothing happened and all her friends were defending her. How do I approach this I need help desperately.
8. May 2017
Her friends weren’t in the room, so why are they involved? Someone in a relationship has no business going back to a footballers room, let alone sleeping around. I think she’s lying and even if she is telling the truth, this isn’t someone you should really want to be with. She doesn’t seem to grasp how a relationship works, what she did was inappropriate. The only way you can approach this is by, telling her how you feel an making a decision about the future of your relationship with her.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I have a similar issue to that guy spoke about his girlfriend tweeting a picture of AJ, my girl takes it new heights she has yxng bane as her wallpaper and screensaver, I can’t deal no more I swear I even tried to put Lauren London as mine and she didn’t even care man, one time she got tickets to a uni rave and she screamed when she heard he was going to be there, like wtf she doesn’t scream when I tell her I’m outside, like he’s not even a celeb it’s killing me inside, I bring it every know and then but she just ignores me, when she found so and so was his ex she was like “omg she’s so lucky” idk help me out pls
8. May 2017
Hi Oloni, I need you asap girl. I rushed into something with a girl I really really REALLY liked and as expected it didn’t work out. I got the ‘hey b, you’re amazing but let’s cut it off” message today. I’m one of those girls who overthinks everything, i didn’t want to come across as a wreck or desperate so I played it cool in my reply, i said i understood her reasons ect, in terms of my feelings i said i was gutted and that was it. This is where i could use your help. I’m not experienced in relationships but i’d like to think i’ve seen enough (and watched enough catfish eps) in my life to have formed a decent enough understanding on how not to act desperate, BUT there are somethings i really want to tell her. I’ve already constructed the message i’m just scared of the repercussions. We ended the message saying she loved to be my friend which honestly would mean a lot to me but i can’t help but think it’s become common courtesy to say that without actually meaning it. I want to express my feelings properly with hope of another shot with her in the future but not at the expense of a friendship, if she means it. Should I send the message?
8. May 2017
Hey love, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with letting her know that if she’s ever open to trying again, you’d be interested. There’s power in communication, go for it, just don’t over do it.
Oloni
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