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My fiancé and I have been engaged for 8 months and we have made arrangements for the traditional aspects of our wedding alongside the white wedding. Our relationship wasn’t very straightforward to begin with and was very on and off but we would always come back to one another. From my perspective I just couldn’t shake him and was always drawn to him. Fast forward to present day, he recently told me that he used some ‘powder’ for the purpose of us stoping the on and off business and that powder is supposedly what made us finally stay together and get to the point we are at now. I am highly uncomfortable with this and frankly very scared. I’m undoubtedly in love with him and was ready to spend the rest of my life with him till he told me about this powder. What on Earth do I do now? Cause I feel madly in love with him but is it because he took matters into his own hands. Please could you give me some advice on this
30. May 2022
We answered this on Laid Bare episode 93
Oloni
Hi Oloni, My boyfriend has been responding to another woman via text messages “Hello Babe” “Good Afternoon Babe” “Good night babe” I do not even get those text messages we have been together for a long time. What is your opinion please
26. May 2022
Excuse me? You need to pull him and ask him what’s going on especially if he doesn’t speak to you like that. If this is the only problem, then tell him it makes you uncomfortable. If the relationship itself is piss poor, plus this on top, rethink this relationship maybe?
Oloni
Hey Oloni. My girlfriend has told me we’ve become our of sync sexually. In a nutshell I’m not satisfying her. How can I fix this asap?
26. May 2022
Perfect answer is to pre order my book The Big O
Hi Oloni. My boyfriend is seriously considering getting a tattoo of his mothers face on his chest and I’m simply very uncomfortable with this. I’ve told him that I don’t like the idea of it, particularly considering moments of intimacy and I’ve even suggested a different placement of the picture or maybe getting her name or birthday but he just isn’t hearing it. His mum is lovely and I have nothing against her but just don’t want to see her face on my man’s body. Would it be unreasonable if I tell him I’d leave him if he goes through with it?
26. May 2022
Oh lord! It’s his body, so the most you can do explain your feelings. If he still isn’t trying to hear you, then that his very permanent decision.
Oloni
Hello oloni, I’ve never told any of my girlfriends but I’m into cuckolding something about my partner getting pleasure and not caring about me excites me but my problem is I’ve never told any of them the ones that have cheated I played dumb like I didn’t know but subtly helped them like paid for her holiday or pay for all of her nights out I always wanted to tell them that it turns me on but always felt like they would all get put off me how can I bring it up?
13. May 2022
Have a conversation about fantasises! It’s the best way to set the tone and reveal another side of you. Ask if they have Any fantasies of their own and start off with something a bit light, continue exchanging till you’re comfortable to explain what you’ve just told me. Good luck!
Oloni
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