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Hey oloni, I sent this dilemma before but I think you may not have seen it. Anyway I’m a 20 year old girl and I think I have a sex addiction. I have had multiple sexual partners and more time I don’t use protection; whenever I am not preoccupied with something I constantly think about and crave sex. I’m not going to go into detail but I have even lost a friendship because of sex. I know sex is addictive in itself and it is a natural craving (hence why most people who have had sex roast) but ngl mine is proper bad :S like I’m so reckless with it and have had an std recently and still continued to bareback. Is there a way that I can see a councillor or something?
11. June 2017
Heya hun! Thanks for sending this in again. I do receive hundreds of dilemmas and do my best to answer as many as I can. What you’ve explained does sounds like an addiction and it would be extremely wise if you spoke to a professional. Sleeping with someone knowing you have an STI is very irresponsible. You’re putting your health and the person you’re intimate with at a high risk.
Hi oloni , I recently been sleeping with a guy for a couple of months after we have sex I take the morning after pill but this month I missed my period and found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant I’m in a pretty awkward situation because we both know it was nothing serious plus I don’t want him to think I’m trying to trap him.. I also don’t agree on abortions so I’m pretty stuck on how I should bring this up to him?
11. June 2017
Hey love! I hope you’re well and staying strong, unplanned pregnancies happen all the time, even when you use contraception. Nothing is ever 100% guaranteed. Hopefully your sexual partner knows this. You need to have a sit down conversation with him and let him know the situation you’re both in. This didn’t happen on your own, so remember that!
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and I have been rocky for a while now, I’m constantly second best and don’t feel like he cares at all. He’s turned very self absorbed as of late, to the point where I’ll be talking to him about something and he’ll completely disregard it and change topic as if I’d never spoken. I have tried numerous times to address these issues. After being caught very close to the London Bridge Attack, and being stuck in London, he fell asleep before I’d even made it out of the London station. If it had been the other way around I wouldn’t have been able to sleep with worry. When I said this to him, he got annoyed with me, and thought I was being irrational. I am at my wits end, and have expressed how unhappy I am. We’ve been together almost three years, and the whole time he has been a good few hours away studying at University, so we have spent almost all our time apart. I don’t know what to do, is it worth giving him a shot now that he’s a few weeks from graduating, and seeing if there’s any change? I do not feel loved, despite his reassurenses, he’s always looking at other women on the internet which makes me question if im desirable enough for him anymore, when discussing this he says that they are only friends. I am so lost, what should I do?
7. June 2017
Oh baby girl. Leave this asshole alone and let him date himself! He needs to be on his own.
I’m glad to know you’re safe and I pray you never face anything like that ever again. When you’re in a dangerous position you’d expect your boyfriend to be worried sick… the fact that he was able to sleep shows his lack of concern to be honest. This isn’t even a one of, you mentioned he’s done similar things in the past and when you communicate this nothing changes. Einstein describes insanity as repeating something and expecting a new result.
Just because you’ve dated for a long period doesn’t mean you must stay or try to fight for some one sided love. Are you Cheryl Cole?
Let this dude go! There are plenty of guys who are prepared to reciprocate the same energy you give.✨✨✨
Oloni
Hey Oloni I’m in a very awkward situation with my ex girlfriend, we originally stopped going out because she cheated on me with another guy, after i forgave her about it she was content that she wanted to be by herself for a while to work on her life, during this time we because very good friends (we’re still sleeping with each other) but I found out that she is still talking and sleeping with the guy that she cheated on me with, she telling me that it could be something serious with the other guy, and she also tells me that she isn’t ready to let me go. I don’t want to let her go either to be honest I’m happy being her friend but I can’t help feel cheapen,this has been going on for about 5 months now, and previous we had been going out for just under 5 years Thank you
7. June 2017
Hey dear! Thanks for writing in. I seriously think you need to cut off ties with your ex. Being by herself should not include intimacy/friendship. That’s not how it works! I feel like she’s simply stringing you along.. and maybe not purposely.. but she’s stringing… if she is in fact talking to the guy she cheated on you with, that’s even more of a reason to leave her be.
Look, you’re clearly still in love with your ex and that’s fine.. but at this point it’s best you love her from a distance.
Oloni
Hi Oloniii. How would you broach the subject of wanting an open relationship? Is there a way for it?
7. June 2017
Heya! Good question, I think the best way woukd be by having a conversation with your partner about the topic and seeing how they respond. Share your thoughts on open relationships and communicate your interests.
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