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Hi oloni, I’ve been seeing this guy for the past couple of months since my breakup. I want to go back to my ex but I can’t stop having sex with my f*#k buddy. The sex is so good and we can’t seem to stop ourselves. How do I get myself to stop having sex with this guy and focus on my ex.
13. June 2017
Block his number (sex buddy) and off your socials. Remind yourself as to why you want to be with your ex and put your energy back into that.
I hope you’re also getting back with your boyfriend for the right reason. Have you’ve solved what split you apart the first time around?
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Hi Oloni, I’ve been stealing from my boyfriend and It’s getting out of hand and I don’t know how to talk to him about it. My boyfriend is a drug dealer, so he makes a lot of money and I’m still a student so he leaves his money and stock at my student house. Whilst it’s there and he isn’t, I often take some of the stock and just a bit of the cash, around £20-50 each time so it’s not so noticeable. He has noticed and questioned a couple of times but I’m always able to blame another student or deflect. The thing is, he is older and more financially stable than I am so he can afford things which I can’t but he thinks that I can because of student loan. I don’t know how to approach a conversation with him about my money struggles because I’m embarrassed and don’t want him to think Im a broke gold digger when I care for him genuinely. Any tips please?
13. June 2017
I am not giving you advice for your drug dealing boyfriend.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. Question about going through someone’s phone caught my attention. I’m good friends with a group of girls, been right since G7. I recently had one of the girls’ phone with me and went through her messages to find out they have a group chat together and when I typed in my name, it showed a bunch of messages of them talking crap about me and another friend who is also part of the group. The messages dated from months ago and I have reason to believe they have been doing this for a while, while still being super friendly (bestfriendly) to us. Now I know I must confront them, I just don’t know how to go on about it. I know them and I know they will make it seem like I was in the wrong for reading the messages and that their points were valide (TO THEM). I need encouragement and advice on how to have the conversation, and does this mean the end of the friendships?
13. June 2017
I once did this years ago. I found out a guy who was supposed to be my friend was talking crap about me and the first thing I did is politely kick him out my house with NO explanation.. actually I think I said I was tired. The following day he said hi to me when we saw each other at a party and I quoted exactly what he said about me. He was in shock and I didn’t care.
I shared that story because although you’re both wrong, it shows your friendship is quite fake. Friends do not talk terribly about each other, especially in a group chat. That’s disgusting. Tell them what you saw, but be ready to end the friendship.
Oloni
Hey oloni, I met a nice guy he works 2 jobs and makes an ok amount of money but not as much as me (I’m on somewhat of a graduate salary). I’m quite traditional in that I believe a man should take care of a household, of course I intend to work but would hope my husband would earn more. So I put this aside and thought maybe he could progress in his earnings, but he recently told me he use to get extra support at school for learning (had learning difficulties) and got help from his family with his CV to get the job(s) that he’s in now, so I basically think this is it for him career wise. I know there are more important things in life than money, but I feel scared to progress things thinking that if we do go far I’d be the breadwinner. Is my way of thinking wrong? Should I continue?
13. June 2017
Your way of thinking is a bit scary, you’ve basically said he’s not good enough. So why are you wasting your time? You know about his learning difficulties and cv help, because he opened up to you about it. When did we start looking down on men who were making use of all the help they can get?
Come on.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I really need help. I am OBSESSED with my ex’s ex. When i first met him i was obviously freeing all her social media DAILY. I don’t even know why but i was obsessed. Anyways, we broke up and i still find myself on this girls profile. It’s gotten to the point where i even make fake instagram profiles and snapchats just o speak to her and free her. This really isn’t me and i don’t know why i’m obsessed. Like, I have a lot going for me, i just constantly find myself comparing this girl, who I’m not even going to lie is a good 7/10 with a good filter but is literally nothing compared to me. I need to know how to stop being so obsessed. My ex knows nothing about my obsession with his ex. please help!
13. June 2017
Hey love! Thanks for writing in, it’s normal for people to compare themselves to others, especially in relationships. Some of us want to know if we’re prettier, skinnier, curvier of smarter than the ex.. saying that, your scenario seems quite unhealthy. You need to find out why you’re so concerned with a girl who isn’t part of your life. I think it’d be wise if you tried to seek professional help as this sounds a bit worrying.
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