Why You Must Beware of The Mr Nice Guys

“Tell a man you don’t want him and you’ll see the real him.” – Ella December

I feel as women, we are always taught to steer away from the bad boys. We are often not given another warning “beware of Mr Nice Guy”.

Of course we should be seeking nice guys that will treat us well, but there are a lot of entitled men masquerading as the “Mr Nice Guy”. A sign to look out for is that a person that is truly nice and good-natured does not have to tell you they are doing nice things for you.

A man that reminds you that he paid you a compliment, bought you a drink or took you out for dinner is not the kind of man you need. It’s expected that when you’re looking to date someone, you are usually courteous to them. So why does being pleasant to your love interest demand a reward that is usually your body.

It’s quite frightening that we will joke that a man pulling out all the stops for a woman has wasted his time because he has not slept with her. Why does the end goal have to be a woman’s body, a body that she might not be ready to share with you? I firmly believe that you should have sex when you want to but you should not feel indebted to do this because a man has treated you nicely.

This is worrying because a sense of entitlement being mistaken for being a nice guy. When the “nice guys” do “nice things” their reward is sex.

The quickest way to find out a self-professed nice guy is not who he claims to be – is to reject him. A man that is truly cordial, will accept rejection. When you tell a guy you are not ready to sleep with him yet and he brings out all the nice things he’s done for you – he was never a nice guy in the first place.

Don’t mistake Mr Entitlement for Mr Nice guy. I love nice guys, the genuine ones not the entitled ones.