The Measure Of Intellectual Flirting
Whether meeting someone new or deciding to take an existing friendship to another level, a form of flirting is required. I believe there is an art to flirting and here are a few elements I believe are key:
Eye Contact
There is nothing like a naked conversation with nothing but eye contact. Even when eye contact has not yet become synchronised, the energy in a gaze will create the attention of the other person. If you both continue to look at one another, then you know what’s next. The smize….
Smize – To smile with your eyes.
The Smile
As the intensity of the connection gets stronger, the level of the smile increases. When you find that you can no longer take the back and forth interaction of smiling, the climax comes. Naturally, you look away to laugh in the hope to restore composure.
The Ignition of Conversation
At some point you may both end of up in the same part of the room at the same time. Every sound is heard, including the silent noise between the both of you. In this early stage, conversation is always best kept light and mysterious with a hint of teasing. Debates, harsh criticism and complaining are the easiest way to eliminate the euphoria that was created.
Keep It Short
To keep demand long, supply must be short. Nothing kills a vibe more than someone who over talks in the first instances of flirting. Word vomit is never cute. A conversation that leaves you wanting more and has you reminiscing is the best way to end the art that is flirtation.
There are many ways to flirt in the obvious sense, but when it comes to intellectual flirting, there is no formula and there is no faking it. Gone are the days where simple chat up lines work easily. These days when someone can hold our interest by an intellectual conversation, they can become more attractive in an instant. Which brings me to my next point:
What is “Intellectual Flirting?”
“Using ones knowledge to have stimulating conversation and impress the other party in the hope to arouse them intellectually and possibly sexually.”
– Bola Sol’s personal definition
Or if you like, a definition by Jill Scott:
“Let’s take a long walk around the park after dark
Find a spot for us to spark
Conversation, verbal elation, stimulation
Share our situations, temptations, education, relaxations
Elevations, maybe we can talk about Revelation 3:17”
When you find someone that kindles your mind and the discussion turns into a passionate debate…. does that turn you on? Is connecting through the mind the new form of mental and possibly physical foreplay?
Many have suggested that flirting is a form of “pre-cheating” if you will. Does this apply for intellectual flirting? If you have or had a partner would you have a problem with someone else stimulating your partners mind?
In today’s society, beauty is an important factor but with that said; even the most beautiful person has to bring something to the table. Although looks do pay some peoples bills, is a beautiful airhead enough? It seems it is more of a bonus if a beautiful person is smart yet a burden if someone is deemed smarter than they are attractive.
Flirting can go nowhere or it could turn into a relationship so I leave you with this:
What stimulates you when you engage in flirting, the mind or the aesthetics?
By @Bola_Sol
