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Hey oloni, gunna try shorten the story, so i was in a relationship and then went on a girls holiday, id been feeling a negative way in the relationship for some months previous to the holiday however whilst on holiday we got on well with a group of boys who we hung with, come the end of the holiday i have one boys number and we ring eachother now and then for the next year, i got on better with him than my actual boyf. a year on from the holiday me and the girls are in holiday boys hometown in the uk and long story short i meet the holiday boy and sleep with him (whilst still in a relationship) i break up with my ex the next day, obviously, a year on from the cheating holiday boy has fucked me over and his bestie has always been into me since the holiday, sis do i fuck his friend because i can and i’ll feel better for a hot sec or not do it out of spite and just leave it 😭
17. May 2018
You’re grown. so you can do what you want. You don’t owe anybody anything lol. However, there is a much healthier way to deal with the hurt you’re clearly going through.
Oloni
ok heyyyy oloni, i have a dilemma that’s sorta kinda-ok it’s totally my fault. i dated this guy who i didn’t like bc he was on the come-up and i wanted his money and then i fucked his best friend, one of his kin, and dumped him. he was crying and begging me to stay but i was like nah nigga fuck outta here…but it’s been 2 years and i realize that i actually loved him and that i’m just an asshole. how do you suggest that i go ask for his forgiveness without getting my jaw spun (not saying he would do that)
17. May 2018
Put it in an email.
Oloni
I was with my boyfriend for a year and then it started to get negative so we broke up, we both slept with one person when we split and agreed it doesn’t mean anything. I can accept that he’s going through things but he said he wants me sexually but not a relationship when I’m still in love with him. He says he can’t get over me either. I’m really confused. By him not being over me and just wanting sex like what does that mean?
15. May 2018
He simply want casual sex with no strings attached.
Oloni
Hey hun, my friends have become really close with my ex after we broke up (they were friends before we broke up but not as close as they are now) and this is making me feel Like I don’t want to be around me friends, I kind of feel betrayed. But I can’t dictate who can be friends with who so is it unfair of me to be upset about this situation? Bearing in mind they know that I’m still not over him and went through depression after the break up?
15. May 2018
Hey love! I hope you’re doing better. It can be frustrating when a break up complicates a group of friends. Your feelings are valid, as it reminds you of your past.
I think you should be honest and tell your friends how you’re feeling. Perhaps even put yourself first by distancing yourself from then just so you can heal from the break up.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I asked the guy I’m talking to about his sexual health, like when he was last tested etc and he called me boring. Do you think I should stop talking to him?
15. May 2018
He’s sexually immature. Run for the hills love.
Oloni
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