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Hey Oloni. I’ve always been curious about sex toys that would involve my boyfriend as well. He knows I have a vibrator and laughs whenever I show it to him. Would you be able to recommend any sex toys that we could both use without him feeling cringed or like it’s gay? Or would you suggest I blindfold him and surprise him? Lol I’ve never experimented with toys on a partner before and I just need advice on what’s the best to introduce to my guy, who’s a proper manly man
5. May 2015
I’d say try using a bullet for starters, he can use it as part of foreplay. It’s great for stimulating the clitoris too. It’s small in size unlike giant rabbits and dildos, where most guys start to rethink why you need their penis in the first place.
Blind folds and and hand cuffs are always fun too, especially for beginners. Try using edible lube also, this makes giving oral pleasure even more enjoyable.
Am I clinging by still trying to keep contact with a guy I’m seeing that puts in minimal effort? We like each other n that but I feel like I’m the only one trying to even just be friends.he doesn’t want me to leave but doesn’t seem bothered if I stay.
5. May 2015
He’s not that interested, don’t let him waste your time if his actions show nothing.
I want a guy who says he likes me to keep in contact at least once a week and spend time doing stuff together once in a while and openly care about me am I asking for a lot?
5. May 2015
Of course not & he’s out there.
I just want people out there to know if you stay true, people will stay true to you. Be careful what you speak into existence. Speaking is a form of praying in my eyes. If you believe that someone who seems genuine is not then everything they do you’ll question it n give yourself an answer based on negativity. Everyday this world grows with negativity but be strong enough to grow out of it.
5. May 2015
Thank you for sharing that.
My bf doesn’t like me getting drunk, which I don’t do because I don’t see it’s necessary, but I enjoy going out and having a few drinks with friends socially. He wants to put a drink limit on me when I go out even though I know how to drink responsibly. Is this controlling ? Is there no point of trying to make it work if this is always going to be his idea of the ideal gf and I don’t want to give up that freedom of choice?
5. May 2015
It’s great that he’s looking out for you, but unless you’ve signed up to AA meetings, you don’t need someone policing your alcohol intake, especially if you’ve never given him a reason to. I’m sure he just wants you to drink responsibly that’s clear, but telling you how much you can drink is a little bit controlling.
Discuss it with him and find out what the real issue is.
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