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I recently lost my virginity and regularly had sex with the person I lost it to until now (I stopped because it wasn’t leading to anything). He also stated that he was a virgin which explained why I felt something was missing, meaning that at times I was bored. I know I was a virgin and many would ask ‘how would I know if I have never tried it before’ however, something just didn’t feel right in terms of the lack of positions etc. Maybe I was just over expectant, but he didn’t really dominate the way he should have, yet because it was my first time and ‘supposedly’ his I thought this was normal. But after a talk with a few of my girls (and some of my guy friends) about it. They explained that I had experienced shit sex. The only thing is the guy probably thinks he is the best I’ve ever had. If he ever asks me about how I feel. Should I be honest and tell him he wasn’t that great? And even if he doesn’t ask me should I still bring it up or not say anything at all?
5. May 2015
Only bring it up if he asks, in my opinion and be honest. Say what you would have preferred, life is too short to be distributing half hearted sex.
Hi, I’m 23 years old still a virgin and never been in a serious relationship. I think one of the main reasons is that I’m super shy around guys and never really put myself out there because I focus a lot on my career. I’be never felt the need to succumb to pressure but I do realise that I need to get out into the dating scene more. What would you say is the best advice for a girl who is shy around guys?
5. May 2015
Hey love! I’d honestly suggest you getting a copy of my latest eBook 100 Questions. It goes into more details and explains the way around this. https://simplyoloni.com/product/100-questions/
I’m talking to a new guy, we’re going on a date soon however I’ve recently just slept with my ex and he said that he wants me back. I love my ex but we broke up because he cheated on my but I would like to get back however this new guy is cool and we have a good connection. What do you think I should do?
5. May 2015
It’s entirely up to you. I always say some relationships can’t move past infidelity, others can! Do what works for you.
I’ve heard such great things about your book. Where can i get a copy and can i read it on my kindle?
5. May 2015
Thank you! Yes you an get it here: https://simplyoloni.com/product/100-questions/
Hey Oloni. I’ve always been curious about sex toys that would involve my boyfriend as well. He knows I have a vibrator and laughs whenever I show it to him. Would you be able to recommend any sex toys that we could both use without him feeling cringed or like it’s gay? Or would you suggest I blindfold him and surprise him? Lol I’ve never experimented with toys on a partner before and I just need advice on what’s the best to introduce to my guy, who’s a proper manly man
5. May 2015
I’d say try using a bullet for starters, he can use it as part of foreplay. It’s great for stimulating the clitoris too. It’s small in size unlike giant rabbits and dildos, where most guys start to rethink why you need their penis in the first place.
Blind folds and and hand cuffs are always fun too, especially for beginners. Try using edible lube also, this makes giving oral pleasure even more enjoyable.
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