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Heyy Oloni, soooo me and my GORGEOUS man have been together a year. Sex so far has been AMAZING. When we got together he was a lot more experienced than me. However, for the past 2 months he’s been avoiding sex! I’ve even bought 100 pound worth of toys to add to our collection (that he suggested) and we haven’t even touched them. It’s always an excuse. Whenever I bring it up he calls my older ass ‘childish’. When we got together he claimed to be this ‘sex maniac’ now a year in and it’s like ‘????’. What’s your opinion? Do you think things aren’t the same anymore? Does this happen in long term relationships? Is it me? Thanks a lot really hope to hear from you!
8. January 2019
Heya hun, 1 year isn’t that long haha. But the best thing you can do is talk to him and share your concerns. There could be a number of reasons, but you’ll only know IF you speak to him and express how this makes you feel.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my boyfriend and I fell out over a female friend. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with her calling him at inappropriate times. He said if I don’t like it then I can leave. I don’t want to leave him but also I don’t like his female friend. What can I do?
7. December 2018
He’s told you what to do if you don’t like it. There’s also definitely more than friendship with his lil friend. Let him go.
Oloni
My boyfriend told me he was gonna take me out for dinner but when the bill came he asked to split the bill, is it wrong for me to think that he should have paid for it considering he was the one who said he was going to take me out?
7. December 2018
Does he always do this? It depends. If you’ve been dating for a while and you have never offered to pay you can’t be completely mad. However, it is a bit crazy that HE said he’d take you out and asked you to foot half the bill. Talk to him about it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been sleeping with a guy for 8 months now and was already getting doubts about being so casual for so long, so was ready to ask him his thoughts and what he wants. However, my friends have recently been trying to dictate my actions, saying I should text him my feelings and block him etc. but I maintained that I was going to talk to him face to face. One of my friends has now decided to take matters into her own hands by messaging him on instagram in a ‘honey trap’ of sorts. Bearing in mind he knows she is my friend, she has asked him if he’s single and he has replied yes and asked her if she is. My friend has taken this as evidence that he will ‘try with anything that moves’ but it’s just made me feel so shitty because I wanted to deal with him by myself and, even though I know she has good intentions, I am really annoyed that she has got involved. What shall I do?!
7. December 2018
Your friend is a mad person and wanted to sleep with him. That’s the truth. This innocent dude isn’t your boyfriend so he didn’t lie. Everything about this is tremendously childish. Limit what you tell your friends and get some space from her particularly. She’s out of line and needs her own love life to mess up.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so I met this amazing guy, 3 months in and we done the deed, everything is going well then I dont hear from him for a few days and find out his ex is pregnant, a few months, but I think she is lying. So he is like oh I must stick by her ect, fair enough but what he doesn’t know is that I’ve just found out I am pregnant too . Do I keep it to myself, raise our baby alone and never contact him again, or tell him I’m pregnant too.help!
7. December 2018
Tell him you’re pregnant.
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