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Hi oloni, so me and this guy have been dating for about 4 years two years into the relationship I found out he had a girlfriend, but I never said anything and just carried on as normal and now last year I found out he lived with her. So I brought it up to him and he just brushed it off saying how he can’t fully commit to her because they have issue which she is not willing to deal with. Problem is for me I’m fully invested in him, he always makes the time and effort for me but I just don’t understand why he won’t leave her and be with me, he has even said himself that he’s at his happiest when he is with me. So what’s stopping him?
29. June 2015
He is having his cake and you’re allowing him to enjoy both. If he has a girlfriend that he lives with your concern should not be with him leaving her. It should be centred around the the person you now know he is. A cheater, a liar, a disloyal person. Something you shouldn’t want anything to do with. He is with her, because he is clearly still dependant on her and is receiving some sort of benefit.
Me and my ex broke up a few months ago and cutting him off has never bern so hard. The last time I cut him off was for a month but I went bck n contacted hin again. He still has feelings for me but he says that he just wants to be friends for now as he ain’t ready and that in the future he sees us together and if that doesn’t happen he still wants me close to him no matter what. I can’t take the the idea of jus being friends with him n recently I just lost my virginity to him, its been a few days n he has contacted me since or replied to my messages. I don’t know what to do, I’m starting to feel like he took my virginity n now he’s gone…
29. June 2015
Give it some time for him to respond however, I do think you’re wasting your time. This guy has told you in the kindest way possible that he’s not interested. I know it hurts, but the way he is already behaving shows his true colours.
Hi Oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We are so in love and everything is going great. He’s introduced me to practically his whole family and I’ve made him sorta familiar with mine. I live with both parents but he has only met my mum (I’m much closer with her), I’m scared for him to meet my dad as I don’t know how my dad will react. We never speak about boys or relationships altogether so this would be all new to him. My bf is starting to think I’m not as serious about him due to him not seeing my dad, I’ve explained but he just says that were grown and I shouldn’t be scared. I’m 21 and he’s 24 so yeah we’re grown I suppose but I just don’t know how to approach this to my dad. Can you help me?
29. June 2015
Sit your dad down and have a conversation. Let him know that there is someone important, you’d like him to meet. Carry on from there.
Hi. If a guy you’re seeing won’t come out and tell people he’s seeing you does that mean he’s embarrassed of you? What possible reason could a guy who says he cares and ‘loves’ me have for not telling his friends, people I’m acquainted with, that we’re together, baring in mind it’s been over 8 months, surely he can’t be lying about his feelings especially if he talks about a future with me. Can you ask this on the TL so I can see opinions of other guys please. I just want to know if I’m being lead on. Thank x
29. June 2015
If you’re seeing each other it’s not that important to let people know, till it transforms into an exclusive relationship.
But of a weird question but, I’ve realised that my boyfriends breath kind of smells. I don’t want to tell because I feel like it’ll hurt his feelings but what should I do? Because it puts me off when I have sex with him
29. June 2015
Couples should be able to tell each other things like this without feeling uncomfortable. Just be straight forward and tell him. I doubt he’ll get upset.
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