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Hi, I’m a Nigerian guy who is in a LT relationship with my Pakistani girlfriend, and recently I’ve been thinking to engage to her since we have grew so much. However I’m not sure how her or my family will take it since we are from different cultures
30. June 2015
Well have a conversation about her family with her.
A clingy ex got back in contact with me, I don’t want to talk to him as I feel he manipulated me and has many insecurities he needs to deal with. I am scared letting him back into my life will only lead to trouble but he swears it’s only good intentions of friendship he has. Any advice
30. June 2015
Block his number if you want nothing to do with him.
Hi Oloni, I went out on a date with this guy I’m kinda seeing now, I like him and I was under the impression he liked me as well but we didn’t even really have a kiss after the date even though it was going well. We both went home quickly and he told me “he doesn’t like to kiss if the girl’s wearing lipstick” which I thought was ott. The next few days the convo has been minimal and we haven’t talked on the phone since plus he’s saying he doesn’t want to talk to me everyday as well as saying he’s busy a lot of the time when I call. What do you think is going on and what should I do about it? Thank you. I love what your doing btw xx
30. June 2015
Move on. He’s not that into you
hello oloni, let me just say first off, i really appreciate and admire you for the help you offer to everyone who comes to you for advice! I used to be a confident girl and had no problem dressing up and feeling pretty but the past 2/3 years have been my lowest as i went through a lot of emotional trauma (had a baby at a young age) and after the whole drama and hurt i went through i didn’t see myself how i used to, dressing up became stress to me and when i eventually did dress up i didn’t feel pretty. I haven’t fully regained my confidence and all. So lately I’ve been trying to take care of my self, skin, hair, body everything. And I try to dress up better and make up when i go out to feel good about myself. My boyfriend on the other hand stays making those ‘who you dressing up for’ comments (and no not in that joking way you’re probably thinking, he actually believes i dress up for other guys and he’s the jealous type) I actually tell him for myself sometimes i say for him. What can i tell him to make him stop cos its not making my matter any better. 🙁
29. June 2015
Thank you so much for your kind words. My love you need to talk to the Mr and let him know how you’ve been feeling, getting your confidence back will not work over night, but I would suggest you also seek come counselling or therapy. Carry on doing what you’ve been doing so far, but trust me speaking to your other half will allow him to understand.
Hey Oloni, I’ve been the single girl for a long time now and I’m looking for the real deal. I seriously think there is a scarcity of good men out there but I was introduced to this nice guy recently and we seemed to get it along until he told me he was muslim which automatically turned me off especially as I’m a Christian. Do you think that’s a good enough reason to turn a guy down?
29. June 2015
If religion is a big deal for you, it’s better not to waste your time, with someone who doesn’t have the same faith as yourself. A successful relationship lasts when you both have the same morals. Saying that there are many great men out there, you just have to put yourself out there and find them.
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