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Hi oloni, my partner has really bad oral hygiene in my opinion. This was never something I noticed when we were dating at the beginning but the more time we spend together I’m noticing. Sometimes he can just have like not bad breath but not healthy breath like I can hack it but he refuses to go to the dentist when his gums are bleeding, I’ve noticed he brushes his teeth no more than 3 minutes.. I really feel like just showing him how it’s done including the tongue but he’s sensitive how do I approach this in a loving way. I can imagine for me should it be the other way round id be completely embarrassed and want to do it in a way that doesn’t affect his confidence.
22. May 2019
Hey love! Aww. I understand why you feel like it’s a tough one, but I’m a firm believer of “if they don’t tell you at home, they will tell you outside”. I also feel like when you’re in a relationship, you should be able to be honest on certain matters. It might sting, but so what? You’re doing it out of love. Just work on your delivery and help him book a dentist appointment.
Good luck
Oloni
Hi Oloni. Let me go straight in.. I’ve been with my bf for almost 2 years now and I’m not seeing improvements in the relationship from his side. I always have to keep asking him what’s wrong if he’s got any issue, always argue that he ignores my calls when he’s with his friends, and when I ask him why he doesn’t pick up one time he’s response what “I was playing fifa” this was the next morning of him calling me with a big smile on his face acting like nothing has happen. Also he’s mentions that he’s always busy with work 🙄 mean while I am a full time student, part- time job, I have a YouTube channel, I can get called for dance project literally any day, but I still make so much time to look for him. I’m really getting tired of calling him and putting 80% in this relationship and not receiving anything back .. ACTIONS SPEAK MORE THAN WORDS. What should I do .. cause my frustration is high as I have exams and I’m moving to my new place ..
16. May 2019
Hello Oloni. I have never done this before but I am very confused. There’s this girl I really love, and she knows. But the issue is that she’s my (junior) cousin’s Ex. Is it right if I go ahead and ask her out? I don’t want any bad blood between my cousin and I. Thanks.
16. May 2019
Heya! Whew that’s family, I don’t think it’s a good idea unless they were like 14 when they dated.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, recently my boyfriend has had some suspicions that I have been unfaithful (I haven’t) so he took it upon himself to hack into my twitter (I have never told him my password for Twitter) and go through my chats with my friends and other guys who have tried to talk to me(I don’t entertain them). In the chats with my friends he has seen parts where my friends would send me guys and call them sexy and whatnot and of course I’d join in saying he’s sexy or things like “just a crumb”😂; ontop of that He’s also seen parts where I’ve ranted about him to my friends (I rant to my friends when me and him have arguments or disagreements) and he has seen me and my friends say he’s insecure or controlling etc. After he’s seen all of this he’s confronted to me about it and I was in utter shock that he’s hacked into my twitter (this is not the first time he’s gone through my things without my permission) Upon this confrontation he has told me not to call him my boyfriend, he doesn’t trust me and has no respect for me. I don’t know if I should keep trying with him because this must be the 4th time something has happened like this between us and he has told me I need to earn this title back. And it’s honestly draining because the things he’s angry about were before me and him were boyfriend And girlfriend and are really petty things. For example I once said a rapper is good looking on my story and then my boyfriend was ready to break up with me. I don’t know if I’ve explained my situation very well but I would very much like some professional advice.
16. May 2019
Aww babe, he’s doing way too much and you need to stop going back. You can’t be talking to your friends in fear of him hacking your stuff for the millionth time. It’s not healthy. I’m sure if his friend sent him a photo of a female celebrity, he’d share his opinion on their attractiveness. He’s honestly behaving like an egg. Find a new boyfriend, he’s not the only man in the world. On top of that he practically wants you to beg for the title back?
Ew
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my long term boyfriend still lets his ex use his Netflix account. I asked him about it and he said it’s no big deal. Am I right to be angry or is he right?
16. May 2019
He’s an idiot. You only share your Netflix with people you’re in love with. Tell him to change that password or there will be problems.
Oloni
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