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Hi oloni! Ive been dating my current boyfriend for about 2 years and we’ve gotten so close. He’s like my bestfriend and we pretty much talk about everything. Anyway we were listening to laid bare together and the topic of STIs was brought up. I asked if he ever had one and he said no and I said me neither. Truth is, back in uni I dated a guy that was basically a hoe (found out too late) and he gave me chlamydia. We got treated for it and broke up. This was about 3 or so years ago. My question is, am I wrong for lying to my boyfriend about this? Does it matter that I didn’t tell him that I had one in the past? It is embarrassing and I don’t want him to think differently of me even though it wasn’t my fault
30. May 2019
It’s completely normal to want to keep getting an STI in the past to yourself. Especially because it’s not exactly normalised, however if you weren’t prepared to tell him the truth you shouldn’t have asked lol. As long as you’re clean now I wouldn’t worry much about it.
Oloni
My bf’s dick is too big. Help?
22. May 2019
Send him my way.. jkjk. Try using lube and practicing much longer foreplay
Oloni
Hi oloni , this situation is stressing me, me and my boyfriend broke up after two years and we are trying to work it out i know he loves me but he’s not a type of person to do big gestures to show it. He has this female best friend that lives in Birmingham and shes going to get a BBL in turkey , she asked him to go as none of her family are supporting her and he told me she hasn’t told none of her friends . He decided to go with her and i cant agree with this as I’ve never met her and i find it weird as he wouldn’t even want to go on holiday with me , he also claims shes paying for everything for him. I feel like he always has to be captain-save-a-hoe and feel like its his responsibility to be there for his friends . Even when he told me he’s going i got upset and he didn’t even try make me feel better Am i being insecure with not trusting him or should i cut him off as my gut feeling tells me this isn’t normal.
22. May 2019
He’s unserious, she’s unserious.. don’t join their unseriousness and leave this guy alone. She has other friends to ask, she just wants an excuse to get even closer to him. But him like a fool will go because it’s a free trip and he doesn’t care THAT much about fixing things with you.
But you know this.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I need to some help. I’ve just started seeing this guy (for about 3 weeks) and I really like him. He’s a good man, with a great job and seems to be very genuine. I have a problem that I’ve applied to work on cruise ships and could potentially be away for 6 months starting in August. I feel very strong feelings for this man and it’s conflicting for me what to do. Would it be crazy to expect a man to wait for me. He’s also potentially going to move to London to complete his traineeship to become a solicitor (takes around 2 years), so he’d be about 2 hours from me anyway. What should I do? Pursue the relationship or the career (with hopes that he’ll wait out). Thank you x
22. May 2019
Oh babe just focus on making sure you get this new job. It’s literally been all of 3 weeks, it’s not that serious lol. If it’s meant to be, once you get back you can take off from where you left. Don’t over think it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my mcm and I are good but he has me blocked from seeing his story, he doesn’t know that I know it, but I find it a bit odd. Should I ask him why
22. May 2019
Which kind of mcm is this please? Bring it up. Do you constantly bang on about what he posts? Weird one.
Oloni
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