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Hey Oloni, I think that my boyfriend still likes his ex and I don’t know how to deal with it. He still talks about her sometimes and they talk but he assures me that there’s nothing going on. But I still feel jealous
4. January 2017
If it makes you uncomfortable, you need tell him again and communicate your exact feelings. It’s then up to him change something about his actions. If he’s smart enough he’ll stop communicating with her. When you’re in a relationship, unless there is a vital reason why two ex’s need to be in contact (like a kid is involved) I don’t understand why he’d need to speak to his ex.
Oloni
Hey lovely. I met a guy online about a month ago & we’ve hit it off and been talking ever since. We’re going out for drinks soon. But he has a five month old daughter. I don’t mind guys with kids but she’s so young and I keep thinking about wtf happened between him & his daughter’s mother. I really want to ask but not sure if it’s too soon or should I just lock him off, after all it’s still early days?
4. January 2017
Ooh not a fan of guys with new born kids out on the look for someone date. You need to ask what happened between him and the mother of his child.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with this older guy for 8 months. I’m 17, he’s 21. When we started talking, we agreed it wasn’t going to be a relationship but we would beat(stupid me); 8 months down the line I think I’ve caught unwanted feelings and I don’t want to drop the L Bomb or even scare him away. I actually like him so much but he only seems to want sex. Should i just forget about my feelings and continue what I started or just lock everything off?
4. January 2017
You need to lock everything off hun. You’re 17 and shouldn’t be sleeping with a 21 y/0 and I’m very sure he knows that.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I was in a situation where I was seeing a guy for over a year. I am 24, he is 25. Our time together included going on weekend breaks away, him taking me on dates often, going to each other’s houses and the man coming to my family dinners and meet-ups with my friends. We ended things and I then discovered that he had a girlfriend for the entire time our situation was going on. Do I tell the partner everything or just leave it; seeing as things have ended between myself and the man in question? I think she should know what her partner has been getting up to.
4. January 2017
Hey hun, stay out of it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve recently started talking to someone new. He’s taken me on several dates and all is good so far. The thing is, via his instagram, I’ve seen him in pictures with 3 guys that I’ve been intimate with in the past. I haven’t asked him about them directly, but from what I’ve seen on social media, I’m able to presume he is friends with these 3 guys. Just my luck lol. I don’t plan on ever asking him “do you know ____?”, but right now I feel like I’m walking on egg shells because it’s only a matter of time before he finds out I’ve had relations with his friends/people he knows and I’m 90% sure he’ll instantly lose interest in me. This is bothering me to the point where I’ve considered just not dating him anymore to save myself the embarrassment. What do I do ?
4. January 2017
Hey girl, ahh so many of us have been in this position before. I think you should have a mature conversation and let him know. It’s better it comes from you than one of his friends.
If you discuss it, it then gives him the chance to decide what he’d like to do with your relationship. I know plenty of couples who have carried on dating despite an odd fling that may have occurred with a friend in the past.
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