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Hi Oloni, I’ve always been that girl who’s said ”I will never get back with a cheater or a guy who’s speaking to other girls whilst in a relationship”. I had the most perfect relationship for about 2 years now and recently I found nudes of other girls on his phone. He claimed it was not that deep and cries to me all the time in fear of me leaving him. I feel disrespected and hurt but I love him so much, to the point I don’t think I can ever move on! I guess u don’t know how u will take it till it happens to u. I can’t believe I’m even considering it but I’m asking if it’s ok to stay and fear it happening again or just leave and be miserable.
3. January 2017
A similar scenario happened in my new eBook DEAR OLONI – I really do not understand why you’d want to go back to this relationship. You’ve literally just caught your boyfriend cheating and his response was that it wasn’t that serious followed my a few crocodile tears? Come on, give this one a think yourself. Or just get my eBook to see how I responded there.
Hi, the girl my boyfriend used to see before we got together just had a baby, he says it’s definitely not his because she said so, but there is no actual proof that it isn’t. I don’t want to keep bringing it up to him but it bothers me. What should I do?
3. January 2017
Woah. Right now you’re going to have to take his word, till you have any other reason to believe it’s his.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a short amount of time, and in term of characteristics I truly adore him. I also however wish he put more effort into how he dresses. Please if you might offer some advice on how to suggest this without risking hurting his feelings, as I really care about him and I’d rather not lol. Thanks in advance.
3. January 2017
Take him shopping as a date, lol couples do it all the time.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now and at the beginning of our relationship I would always buy him expensive things and book expensive hotels for us and I didn’t mind because I was earning more than him. Now the tables have turned and he’s earning a lot more than me but I’m still the one that’s still spending hundreds. For example for his birthday I bought him some yeezy’s and an expensive watch and for mine I just got a simple hotel and teddy bear. I don’t know if I’m being really selfish or if he just prioritises other things but it’s made me feel a bit resentful because I have spent so much on him because I adore him and he hasn’t spent half of what I have. How do I speak to him without sounding like a spoilt and selfish brat?
3. January 2017
Oh gosh! He just seems like a horrible gift giver, you just need to have a conversation and tell him what you’d prefer he prioritised. You’ve been with each other for two years, I’m sure you know how to speak to your boyfriend so you don’t sound like a spoilt brat! Lol.
Oloni
I’m really heartbroken right now and I’ve lost all my self esteem. I was going out with this guy for 4 months. We broke up and 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant. He forced me to have an abortion even though he is financially stable and so am i. I always wanted the nucleur family so when he said he didn’t wanna be with and wouldn’t be there for me. I aborted the baby. Fast forward now hes back with his ex and she’s pregnant and she’s due when I was. It hurts so much. I don’t know how to deal with this pain.
3. January 2017
I am so incredibly sorry that you went through that experience. He was wrong for forcing any kind of decision on you, it was unfair and most of all insensitive. I think what’s important right now is for you to try and focus on healing. You need to be around a good friends for emotional support, and to help you during this time. I know you must be feeling hurt right now, but do not let the wickedness of someone else defeat you. Please also try to seek professional help, such as a counsellor or a therapist.
You will be okay.
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