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Hi Oloni, I’ve recently got into this relationship with a guy I met a few weeks ago. He’s amazing but there are a few certain views that bothers me (i.e. he has this patriarchal mindset, which I’m clearly against. Also he loves to shout at me for unnecessary stuff like not giving him enough attention or not messaging him however if the tables were turned he would find a way to blame me somehow. Besides that, this guy is really amazing to me, treats me like a princessssss and everything. But yet I fear that this guy is sexually fuatrated
6. January 2017
Lol you need to have a conversation with him dear. He’s not your father and I’m sure you’re grown so no one should be raising their voice at you, it’s disrespectful. As for his opinions, that won’t change. He was like that when you met him, so even if you stop dating him today, he will still have the same mindset. You either accept who he is, or walk away.
Hi, Oloni, I’m 19 yrs old and I’ve been in a romantic relationship with a 35yr old man for a couple of months now (has a girlfriend btw). We really love each other but we haven’t gone as far as into a relationship because I know he’s at the stage in life where he wants marriage and kids. At this point in my life, I cannot give him that, I still need to live my life so we agreed that our relationship would stay the same. He recently told me he plans to propose to his girlfriend (I’ve met her and she is really nice) and I’ve even tried on their engagement ring and everything. As much as I want him to be happy, I feel bad that his gf is getting married to a man that is not faithful to her. Should I tell her the truth or keep quiet and let them live?
6. January 2017
You need to piss off. So you tried on her ring and suddenly your moral compass is interested in the loyalty of her man? Don’t abuse my service.
Oloni
My boyfriend on 7 months asked me to help him write an email so I did, I went back on my laptop a week or so later and he was still logged in the email as I’d just left my laptop when I wrote it. He had emails from a website how to meet “trannys” (or woman that are men still with their penis). My boyfriend is a very manly man and I don’t even feel asking him about this is an option as I do not want to hurt his pride and I know it would. Is my man gay? I don’t understand, is it a common thing for a straight man to be interested in these women/men… leaving out the fact he may have/going to cheat as he has signed up to this site (which I know is him as it was his name etc used so wasn’t for a friend). Like I say my man has always been the ladies man, dog kind of guy so this was a real shock I can’t understand. Thanks
6. January 2017
I don’t care how manly he is, that’s your boyfriend you’re ALLOWED to communicate with him. Ask him about what you saw and have a conversation about it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve just turned 20 and in my second year of uni. Before coming to uni I’d been in only relationships before coming to uni. In my first year, I went a bit crazy and started to sleep with lots of guys when I went out and felt like I couldn’t control myself (even tried to seek help). But I start to hear shit about me from other guys, so it made me think twice about my behaviour, I didn’t want a name for myself. It wasn’t until my ex ( my love of my life) came back into my life and said he wanted to give things ago again. Me being honest I tell him about all the people I had sex with since I last saw him ( it was 20 in a year) and straight up said he no longer wanted to give things ago anymore and didn’t see us ever being together in the future, so I was absolutely gutted. Since then I don’t feel like I will ever find a man that will except my past. Like I have re-evaluated my life, I don’t have the burning desire to sleep around anymore. But when I watch that BkChat series on YouTube where they talk about how ‘I won’t wife a girl with a body count higher than 9’. Makes me feel I will never find a guy who will except me even though that phase of my life is over. Will I have to lie about my body count for the rest of my life? I can’t change my past so what can I do?
6. January 2017
Hey love! There are several of women who have been in your position and at the end of the day, who you sleep with doesn’t define who you are as a person. If you’re able to sit back and reevaluate why you felt you were having a lot of sex, then to me that shows growth. Some people sleep around aimlessly without a clue, whilst others know that they simply enjoy having sex which isn’t a bad thing.
I understand in today’s society many still frown upon what a woman chooses to do with her body, but there is a guy out there who will accept you for you. Any guy who walks away from the person you are after being honest isn’t who you should want in your life.
As for sharing your past sexual partners, unless you’re having a conversation about your sexual health I wouldn’t understand why it needs to be spoken about.
Oloni
Hi Oloni!! My best friends coworker asked me to be in a threesome with her and her man. I agreed only because I really wanted to have sex with her. I haven’t had a lot of sexual partners, so she knew I was nervous. She told me to have sex with her man without her so that he could learn my body so that when she was back in town I’d be adjusted. So I had sex with him without her being there. She asked him how it was and he told her it was the best he ever had and now she won’t talk to me. The entire time we communicated together via group iMessage. So she knew everything that was said . He messaged me outside of the group message saying he wants to break up with her because the vibe between us was great and he wants to take me on a date. I don’t want him what so ever, I want her. He’s a dope guy that I’d like to have as a friend. And she’s not messaging me back because of the comment about me being his best. What should I do ? How do I explain to her I didn’t have a sinister plan to steal her man ?
6. January 2017
Eeek this is so awkward. I seriously think you should do everything you can to leave this sex triangle. It’s too messy and won’t end well for anyone involved. He’s talking about sex with you, you’re thinking about sex with her.. even though she probably feels some type of way towards you. Not worth it at all.
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