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Hello Oloni, whilst on my dads phone I went on safari to look for something and on his recent tabs I saw that he has been looking for escorts in the area, I had recently seen this on his phone several months beforehand but i just thought it was an accident or something. i feel like he may be cheating on my mum. what shall i do?
15. January 2017
You take a mental note and mind your own business. Unless you literally have proof of your dad cheating I think you should stay out of it. He could have just been having a cheeky google, nothing serious.
Oloni
So I have been with my boyfriend just under 3 years and recently I’ve had the urge to cheat on him with a past lover. I know this is wrong and I don’t think I’ll ever go through with it because I love my boyfriend and would never hurt I’m like that but I can’t stop thinking about this other guy. I imainge senarios in my head about us two, get really excited when he calls me or texts but I know from the past we wouldn’t work and tbh I’m not even that physically attracted to him so I don’t know what it is about him. I have a good relationship with my boyfriend but I just keep thinking about this other guy.
15. January 2017
Fantasising about an old flame is normal, but when you start to think about actually cheating it becomes a bit of a problem. You need to figure out why these urges are coming and also stop speaking to this ex love interest…so cut off calling and texting each other, it won’t help your case if you plan on being faithful to your current.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I recently told my girlfriend (now ex), that I wanted to have sex. She wasn’t ready yet, so I had to cut things off. After dumping her it’s been like a month, I have been having sex with another girl. I don’t like this girl as much as my ex girlfriend. The question I have is do I contact my ex because she has this spark that I can’t find anywhere. Help I’ve made a terrible mistake and she has blocked me off all her social media. She changed her number and her friends do not like me, after my behaviour towards her. Thanks.
15. January 2017
Hey love, I think you should leave her alone. It’s clear she wants nothing to do with you. It’s unfair to come back after you’ve finished getting your nut elsewhere.
Oloni
Hi, I may be stupid but I feel second best all the time. I don’t care that my boyfriend sees his friends and I don’t mind that he goes out. We are both very busy and we are at uni and therefore we need social time. However, I am starting to feel second best because I will message him and then I always see him tweeting people, liking pictures on Instagram, being online on whatsapp and then will message me hours later. He occasionally reassures me and says lovely things which makes me think everything is okay but this feeling of being second best to his friends and social life hurts. He always says he doesn’t want us to end and is ready for a relationship, but I can’t fight the feeling that he doesn’t love me. I really don’t know what to do because we are so good together otherwise. Please offer me some advice. xx
15. January 2017
Hey hun, don’t feel stupid just have a conversation with your Mr and voice how you feel.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I have a dilemma. Every guy I have dated (be in 2 dates or a relationship) when things have ended now have gfs. Like literally straight away. Am I the gf fluffer? Or just terrible luck with men? I meet loads (I’m a confident, intelligent BW who is quite good-looking) but with men my luck has run short. Another one has told me today he now has a gf which is why he’s been less communicative. I just said ok. Best of luck. But inside I’m hurt a little.
15. January 2017
Oh darling, that must be extremely annoying! The only way you’d be the girlfriend fluffer is if you’re doing everything the girlfriend should be doing. So are you committing outside of a commitment? Are you giving too much of yourself? I think you need to find a new approach to dating and see how that works. Don’t be too disheartened love, these things happen quite often.
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