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Is this a normal thing for Nigerians guys. All the Nigerian guys I’ve fucked with never eat me out and I don’t even ask for it because I feel like if they wanted to, I wouldn’t have to ask for it. I even spend time making sure my kitty is clean as fuck so nobody should come here and say its because my box stank. All the other guys I’ve been with (white guys) always give me good head and I don’t even have to ask for it. I’m seeing a nigerian guy right now and I really want that tongue, we haven’t been intimate yet but just incase, do you think its ok for me to ask? because I feel its embarrassing to ask because what if he says no that would hurt my ego. But serious question, are all Nigerian dudes like this? or is there something wrong with me? The annoying thing is I have to give head but I get none in return
21. January 2017
I’m not a Nigerian man, so I an’t speak for them. However, nationality has nothing to do with sex + communication. If you can’t open your mouth between the sheets, then you probably shouldn’t be sleeping with them at all. Don’t place your pleasure to the side because of your pride or ego.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, this is weird doing this but I’ve been in a relationship with my girl for 3 years, I love her and everything but she has Sickle Cell severely. She’s been in and out of hospital a lot. I’ve always been there for her but lately I’ve been asking myself do I really want to carry this burden with her for the rest of my life ? don’t get me wrong she is a beautiful girl with a beautiful soul and the most strongest person I’ve ever met but I just don’t think this is what I want for myself. And i don’t want to be the bad guy and break up with her because of it. What should I do ? Thanks a lot in advance
21. January 2017
Hey hun! Thanks for writing in. It sounds like this has been on your mind for a while. The right step to take is to talk to her an have an honest and open conversation. Remember, this doesn’t make you a bad person as you’re only being true to yourself. With time, it seems as though you noticed this isn’t something you’d be able to commit to.
Being in and out of hospital is never easy, but by letting go of her you give her the chance to move on and find someone who can accept what she’s going through.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. My boyfriend has many female bestfriends which doesn’t bother me because he puts me above all of them, except 1. He used to date her and people say that was his first love. He is constantly talking to her and he was first to find out about her being pregnant. (before the babydaddy) now the baby has been born, he’s oddly close to her and talks to her all the time. Even makes her his dp, but it’s strictly “bestfriends” he says. Should I be worried or I shouldn’t be jealous of someone who has a boyfriend and a baby…?
21. January 2017
This is so weird, cus anyone would think he was the baby’s father. I think you should honestly have a conversation with him and let him know that it makes you very uncomfortable. All you can do is communicate your feelings and leave the rest to him.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, Ive had 7 sex partners so far, and I have never gotten an orgasm from sex. Is it me or my sex partners. Ive creamed and gotten extremly wet and my partner would say that i came. But I wouldnt feel anything. I know what an orgasm feels like, giving them to myself. But I never get them from another person, whether it be oral or intercourse.
17. January 2017
Don’t you just hate when a guy tries to tell you that you came just because you get incredibly soaked up? Ah-nnoy-ing. This is very normal by the way. Lol. I think you might need to try some new techniques to help you climax, so perhaps longer foreplay, introduce a toy into the room?
Hey girl, I came across you on twitter and I think you’re the best person to help. So I’ve been seeing this guy for 3 years or so. He’s met my family ect and they all adore him. However, I have not met his. Did I forget to mention he’s Nigerian and I’m not? Yeah. Also did I forget to mention his mum is very traditional? Yeah. Well I’ve been to a couple of events where his family is around but he makes no attempt to introduce me. And it’s awks for me. We’ve spoken about it and he’s also let it slip that he told his mum about us but she didn’t like the idea as I’m not From their tribe.(she doesn’t know I’m not Nigerian) Sometimes I feel like I am being pulled along and being promised a happily ever after that might not happen if his parents decide against us being together. I sometimes feel like his dirty little secret. Should I end things now and save myself future heartache if we get in too deep ?
17. January 2017
Hey hun, thank you! I really do hope you mean you’ve been in a relationship and not ‘seeing’. Second, not all Nigerians have an issue with their children entering a relationship with someone outside their culture. I don’t want you to have the impression that all Nigerians feel that way.
Don’t break up with him..yet.. just have an honest and open conversation with him. You have every right to feel the way you do, being involved for three years and not being introduced to his parents is quite disrespectful. Hear his response and if he doesn’t seem to be getting it, come up with your own smart decision.
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