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Hi oloni, So I slapped my boyfriend when we had an argument and that was the first time I’ve ever done something like that. I saw him texting another woman and then we started arguing and that’s when it happened. Ive apologised but he’s stopped talking to me and said he may go to the police for domestic violence, not because he scared or hurt by it but just out of principle. It was only a little slap but he’s taking it so far. I just want to get over this. What do I do? And is this domestic violence?
24. April 2017
If he feels threatened by you then he has every right to go to the police. You shouldn’t be slapping your boyfriend know matter how you feel. Next time walk away.
Hiya. I’ve read your bi-curious post and I feel the exact same but coming from a religious and cultural background. I don’t know how I’d meet girls for sexual experimentation. Any suggestions????
24. April 2017
Heya hun, thanks for reading it. I was actually quite scared to release it. I would suggest, social media apps and dating ones too.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 14 months and I already feel bored in the relationship. Isn’t it too early for me to be feeling this way? I feel like the excitement has completely gone and out sex life is shit. I have a very high sex drive and he doesn’t do he can go without sex for 3/4 days whereas I can have sex every day. In the beginning of the relationship he wasn’t like this and he was always the one to initiate sex and I’ve told him how I feel because it makes me feel like I’m not wanted because I’m always the one who initiates it. I feel like he is also bored too. There’s little things that irritate me more than they used to. I like face timing my boyfriend and he knows this, communication is a 2 way thing and I don’t like to always have to be the one to reach out first and the fact that I always am just pisses me off. I don’t know if it’s because I’m bored and that’s why I feel irritated st everything he does. Sorry that here’s no structure to this question by the way lol I know it’s very disconnected.
24. April 2017
Hey hun, you need to have a deep think about what you want. Is it time for you to check out? Are you happy? Is this relationship working? Sex is an important factor in relationships, but not all. .. however in your case it’s clear that it is. Have a conversation with bf and let him know what’s going on through your head…
Oloni
My boyfriend’s sister is friends with two of my exes friends, what scares me is one of them knows about my past (I faked a pregnancy/ baby on my ex about 6yrs ago) and when they found out things turned sour. Me & my ex who I faked the pregnancy on, we made up about 2yrs ago I apologised and moved on from it, I mean I was a bit young when all that happened and we are cool. But what worries me is what if this girl tells my boyfriend’s sister about my past, I love my boyfriend and don’t want to loose him or should I tell him about it myself before he finds out or should I just bury it since everyone has a past and I’m now a changed person.
24. April 2017
Heya hun, I really do hope you never make up such a lie like that again, as it’s quite a serious thing to say. If you’re worried about it, tell your partner and explain it yourself before he hears it from anyone else.
Hi Oloni, so a colleague at work that I barely know asked me out on a date in a couple of weeks. I’m not attracted to this guy but felt put on the spot to say yes because again I don’t know him well and didn’t know how to decline with good reason and without offending him. Now I realise going on this date with him is actually leading him on and suggesting to him that I may be interested. I really want to cancel this date now and I don’t want to lie about being ‘busy’. I still have to work with this guy so how do I cancel our plans without offending him and making things awkward at work….
24. April 2017
Be honest and tell him you’re not interested OR say you think it’s best you don’t mix pleasure with business.
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