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Hey Oloni, I really need help. I am OBSESSED with my ex’s ex. When i first met him i was obviously freeing all her social media DAILY. I don’t even know why but i was obsessed. Anyways, we broke up and i still find myself on this girls profile. It’s gotten to the point where i even make fake instagram profiles and snapchats just o speak to her and free her. This really isn’t me and i don’t know why i’m obsessed. Like, I have a lot going for me, i just constantly find myself comparing this girl, who I’m not even going to lie is a good 7/10 with a good filter but is literally nothing compared to me. I need to know how to stop being so obsessed. My ex knows nothing about my obsession with his ex. please help!
13. June 2017
Hey love! Thanks for writing in, it’s normal for people to compare themselves to others, especially in relationships. Some of us want to know if we’re prettier, skinnier, curvier of smarter than the ex.. saying that, your scenario seems quite unhealthy. You need to find out why you’re so concerned with a girl who isn’t part of your life. I think it’d be wise if you tried to seek professional help as this sounds a bit worrying.
Oloni
PLEASE HELP I found out my best friends ex boyfriend was flirting and doing things with other girls while they were together and I don’t know if I should tell her. I’m conflicted because a part of me feels like there’s no point because she’s moved on and I don’t want to drag her back into that place. The other part of me feels like as her friend I shouldn’t keep this secret from her. I don’t know what to do 🙁
13. June 2017
Hey Oloni! I know you probs get questions like this all the time but I need advice. A friend of mine who I went to college with recently admitted to me she has feelings for a boy I used to have sex with. We’re all kind of in the same friendship group which is how they know each other but lately they’ve gotten much closer. We’ve been friends for over 5 years now & although we’re not best friends I’d say we were quite close. Is it wrong for me to upset & end our friendship over this even though me & the guy weren’t serious and I have my own partner now. Help me please!x
13. June 2017
Hey love! You’re being super territorial. The relationship you had with this guy wasn’t serious and you’re in an actual relationship now.
Don’t block her blessings, just because it makes you feel a certain type of way. Be mature about it. If this was an ex, I’d get it, but it isn’t.
If you still feel like you don’t approve of your friends new feelings for this guy, speak to her about it and try to distance yourself.
Oloni
Love that you had a lesbian at the laid bare live show and laid bare live online, it would be great to have also a feminine lesbian’s opinion on things too.
13. June 2017
Thank you for your suggestions!
I recently started dating someone who I met in a club. It was all going well until we had sex. The sex was so good but I for some reason stopped having any actual romantic feelings towards him and I can’t see a future. I would like to keep having a sexual relationship though as we all do have needs. He wants to settle down and start a future but that’s clearly not going to be with me as I don’t feel that way about him. Would it be unreasonable of me to tell him we should be friends with benefits?
13. June 2017
It’s not a bad idea, tell him how you feel and see if he’s open to a sexual relationship.
Oloni
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