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PLEASE HELP I found out my best friends ex boyfriend was flirting and doing things with other girls while they were together and I don’t know if I should tell her. I’m conflicted because a part of me feels like there’s no point because she’s moved on and I don’t want to drag her back into that place. The other part of me feels like as her friend I shouldn’t keep this secret from her. I don’t know what to do 🙁
13. June 2017
Just tell her.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I know you probs get questions like this all the time but I need advice. A friend of mine who I went to college with recently admitted to me she has feelings for a boy I used to have sex with. We’re all kind of in the same friendship group which is how they know each other but lately they’ve gotten much closer. We’ve been friends for over 5 years now & although we’re not best friends I’d say we were quite close. Is it wrong for me to upset & end our friendship over this even though me & the guy weren’t serious and I have my own partner now. Help me please!x
13. June 2017
Hey love! You’re being super territorial. The relationship you had with this guy wasn’t serious and you’re in an actual relationship now.
Don’t block her blessings, just because it makes you feel a certain type of way. Be mature about it. If this was an ex, I’d get it, but it isn’t.
If you still feel like you don’t approve of your friends new feelings for this guy, speak to her about it and try to distance yourself.
Oloni
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13. June 2017
Thank you for your suggestions!
I recently started dating someone who I met in a club. It was all going well until we had sex. The sex was so good but I for some reason stopped having any actual romantic feelings towards him and I can’t see a future. I would like to keep having a sexual relationship though as we all do have needs. He wants to settle down and start a future but that’s clearly not going to be with me as I don’t feel that way about him. Would it be unreasonable of me to tell him we should be friends with benefits?
13. June 2017
It’s not a bad idea, tell him how you feel and see if he’s open to a sexual relationship.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I’m in a very sticky predicament. I have a friend who is a very pretty girl, goes out quite a lot and catches a lot of attention from guys everywhere she goes. I went through her phone recently and found her messaging a guy about the last time they had sex. The messages were quite descriptive and vulgar for it not to be true but the part that shocked me is that the guy is engaged and will soon be getting married. Do I confront her about it or do I not mention it again? Because I don’t know whether it was a one off or if it’s still going on. Their always together nowadays aswell. I don’t want this to get out of hand because she’s my friend but I also don’t know what to do!!!
11. June 2017
Hey hun, thanks for writing in! Is this your friend or your girlfriend? Yes, what she’s doing isn’t morally right.. but it’s none of your business till she tells you herself and asks for your opinion.
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