4 Ways To Deal With Your Friends Interfering In Your New Relationship

October 15, 2016

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4 Ways To Deal With Your Friends Interfering In Your New Relationship

Cuffing season has well and truly arrived and there is nothing like the feeling of being propelled towards the clouds due to that new relationship high. RECOMMENDED READING: HOW TO GET A BOYFRIEND – DATING WITH A PURPOSE It is definitely the calm before the turbulence that can make landing back to reality an uncomfortable transition. At this point turning to your friends to vent about the uncomfortable transition in your relationship is an option you might be considering. It can provide a different perspective and we would all like to believe that all our friends who display concern about our relationship issues, are being genuine.

It can be tricky because you can find yourself being so protective of your new relationship that anything that is said to you that possesses even a hint of negativity or an indication of a red flag can be deemed as an attack on your newfound happiness, especially if you don’t have the best track record with relationships in the past. RECOMMENDED READING: How To Tell Your Friend You Don’t Want To Listen To Her Relationship Issues Anymore. But what of the advice and opinions about your relationship from your friends is unwanted? All of sudden they are just way too involved and just can’t seem to stay out of it. If you have found yourself in this position here are four useful pointers for dealing with friends interfering in your relationship:

Address the situation:

If you have not done so already, it is important to ensure that you are communicating your own concerns as much as they are communicating theirs. You would probably have to consider your friend’s motives especially if it is not something that your friend usually does. Try being open minded and hear your friend out. It is also important to acknowledge the part you may have had in the formulation of their views. You should also be prepared for a reaction that may be seen as you are defending your partner.

Stop informing your friends about every little disagreement you have with your partner:

At the end of the day, the only opinions that matter are those of you that are in a relationship with one another. Safeguarding your relationship from outside influences is an important part of ensuring that this does not change. You are going to argue as you will with people who you allow to become close to you. The closer someone is to you the more they are able to get under your skin. Of course venting to your friends is normal but are you venting to your friends more than you are actually addressing to your boyfriend how you feel? Do your friends know more about your issues with your boyfriend than your boyfriend does?

When you vent to your girls they are most likely receiving a biased view to an argument you describe to them. This can lead to them having a negative view of your partner, depending on what you tell them. Their friendly concern may cause them to become fiercely overprotective over you, and when things with you and your partner are good again it may lead them to be unconvinced putting you in an uncomfortable position as this can, in turn, lead to friction in your relationship.

Take relationship advice with a pinch of salt:

Your friends will always be concerned and may always want to give you advice but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s always right. Every relationship is different regardless of how similar the situations may seem. So as appreciative as you may be about the fact that your friends are offering advice you determine whether you actually take it on board. It’s a great way to weigh out your options however you should never feel obligated to take it. They will never really see the whole picture they will only be able to form an opinion based on what you have told them.

Create boundaries:

As with everything you set the tone on how you desire to be treated by the boundaries and standards you set. Create boundaries that you feel comfortable with, if you respect your relationship and your friends are truly your friends they will see that you are serious about it and respect it too. You will not allow anyone to throw around insults and blatant disrespect towards your boyfriend and your relationship and vice versa.