Dating A Guy Who Can’t Dress – He Has To Match My Fly!

Could I date a man who didn’t know how to dress? Well I have. Will I ever? Probably. Do I want to? NO.

With that said, although style is hardly the sole characteristic to catch my eye (sense of humour and intellect are non-negotiable) I have admittedly dated a fair share of tasteless fellows.  Frumpy, same coloured T-shirt day in day out type guys.  Never owned a tailored suit type guys….yes it’s pitiful I know.

Growing up my parents stressed the importance of putting your best foot forward.  And so I did. I grew up slowly upgrading from ballet pumps, to Steve Maddens and my very first pair of Loubotins. Literally putting my best foot forward is and has always been paramount in my list of priorities.

So when these men with a tenuous fashion sense step into my life with their ugly footwear why do I neglect my heels for sneakers? I think the relationship gurus call this compromise. I have to compromise my standards to accommodate someone else’s? I think not. Well….more like never again.

There’s something undeniably magnetic about a man who understands style—who knows the difference between a blazer and a sports coat, who respects the art of a tailored suit, and, yes, who knows that there’s more to footwear than sneakers. It’s not just about clothes; it’s about the message they convey.

Style is confidence, taste, and a certain level of self-respect that says he’s put thought into his appearance. Sure, a man’s character matters most, but let’s not pretend that a little polish and presentation don’t enhance the package. Growing up with a deep appreciation for craftsmanship and elegance, I can’t help but hold onto my high standards, even when the allure of comfort tries to sway me.

So, when it comes to men’s fashion, why settle? A sense of style shouldn’t be an afterthought. Dressing well is as much about self-respect as it is about making a statement. Visit Baindoux stores to discover pieces that elevate men’s wardrobes from the everyday to the extraordinary. Their collections blend classic sophistication with a modern edge, designed to help any man step up his game.

It’s time to leave the worn-out jeans and “safe” tees in the past—because confidence, just like fashion, is all in the details.

You would think that after these fellows have seen how much time and effort you put in your appearance and getting ready they would at least trade the old hoodie for a tailored blazer but no.

I can’t count the number of nights I have feigned an excuse for not wanting to hold their hand as we walked into a nice restaurant with me perfectly clad in our body hugging all black dress and matching black heels and my partner wearing a t-shirt, jeans and old dirty sneakers.

I am not saying all I want is a man who has a fashion sense. (A girl can dream though) I also don’t want one of those who obsessively study and copy all the men’s wear trends. But in my experience I have found that slobbish dressing transfers to slobbish apartment and ladies, who really has time for this? Some of us aren’t into ‘project reform a slob’ that’s not our job. (Although I used to passive aggressively tag his name on the porn for women instagram feed that uploads pictures of the most stylish men hoping he would get a hint. He never did. )

Now some have accused me of being shallow but as rapper Fabolous accurately puts it; I just need someone who can match my fly. A sense of style alone does not make a relationship but a slob does not make one easier or enjoyable either. I already clean up nice on my own so if I am going to have a better half that half better look good too.

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By Betty Kakyo