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Hi Oloni. I am in an impossible dilemma and need help. I no longer believe in the christian God or any God but my boyfriend of over a year does – hes very christian. He knows about my disbelief, and its put a big hindrance on our relationship (we’re close to breaking up). I really really love him so much and would be heartbroken seeing him with another girl, especially as he is my first love. He treats me so well too. Do you think it would be worth pretending that I believe in God again to stay with him? I just don’t know what to do. 🙁
3. May 2015
Don’t pretend to be what you’re not. It’ll only end later, rather than sooner. Him being your first love holds no weight if things aren’t working out, remember that.
Religion is such a tough one because it’s not just a faith to some, it’s also a culture.
I know it’s difficult as I can tell you love him, but if your disbelief can make you part, is love really enough?
Are seeing someone and dating someone the same thing? If not, what are the categories?
3. May 2015
Theyre quite similar. You can see someone without going out & actually dating. I find that people who are ‘seeing’ someone are more likely to just be sleeping with that person.
People who are dating are actually getting to know each other by spending time together with hopes it could possibly turn into something more.
I was dating a guy who’s bisexual, we were never officially in a relationship but we’d established that we were dating exclusively. He recently decided that he doesn’t want to date anymore but he still wants me in his life and wants to be friends. He said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone. I recently went to a party and he came with a guy who he told me had made advances to him in the past. I ignored him & didn’t speak to him because I think he was dishonest about his reasons of not wanting to date and it being more that I am female rather than the relationship itself. (Neither of these guys are out btw) Am I being petty for not wanting to be friends?
3. May 2015
You stopped seeing each other, being friends is not a default option.
I’ve been seeing this guy for a while and he says that he has feelings for me and I have feelings for him too. However he says that he wants to take it further but he doesn’t really like relationships and people knowing his business. I really like him but I feel like he’s wasting my time. He has other girls on the side but he says it’s not as serious as with me. I’m not sure whether I should cut off other guys. What should I do ?
3. May 2015
He’s full of shit. Let that go.
I was with my girl for a few years and I really messed up bad. I wasn’t ready for a relationship so infedelity was there on my part but she stuck with me through all of that. I cheated on her again and she finally had enough and broke up with me. It’s been 6 months now and I realised she’s actually the one I want and I want to make it work and let her know that I’ve changed and I’m not the same person that I was before but she doesn’t believe me and she won’t give it a go. I actually do see a future with her so what do I do?
3. May 2015
Just because you see a future with her, doesn’t mean it’s supposed to happen especially when her feelings have been hurt on several occasions.
If possible ask to meet up with her so you can try again to explain how you feel.
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