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Hey, I was talking to a guy on and off for three years and now we are in a 7month relationship. I love spending on my partner and buying him nice things, however i NEVER get anything in return, not even a dinner date? are my expectations too high, should i not give so much, or???
14. May 2015
Discuss this with him if you feel this way, he won’t know how you want to be treated if you don’t say so.
So like my gf of 8yrs is constantly accusing me of cheating on her and keeping secret just because I won’t let her touch my phone. I show her my texts and pictures I have on it. The reason I don’t let her touch my phone is because she’s clumsy and phones aren’t cheap nowadays. How can I convince her I’m not cheating. With this constant accusations going on I feel like proving her right and getting rid of her. Help!
13. May 2015
You shouldn’t feel like you constantly have to prove yourself, if you’ve given no reason for her to question your loyalty. 8 years is a long time, but speak to her and let it be known you’re reaching your breaking point. It’s your phone period.
My boyfriend doesn’t kiss me. Like when we first see each other or when he leaves nothing even when we chill nothing. And now I feel like I’m gonna take it upon myself and just kiss him. But saying this it leads to another problem I have, why do I feel like I have too build up courage too kiss him, he is my boyfriend even with other things I have too remind he’s my boyf for example calling him, is this normal that I have too always remind myself ( I think it’s because I’ve been single for a long time)
13. May 2015
Talk to him about it & come back letting me know what he has said.
Hi Oloni, I’m in my early 20s have a girlfriend and everything is fine. We work in different parts of England now and we often go a couple of months without seeing each other. Recently I’ve been noticing a female early 30s who works near me and we both go to the same gym preeing me. She now also started to talk to me and we occasionally flirt. I love my girlfriend butI am starting to have lustful thoughts about this woman as she is very attractive what do I do? (The said woman has also asked me when are we going out and when am I coming to see her. I’ve always declined but temptation is real)
13. May 2015
Temptation will always be around. If it’s not the lady in the gym, it could be the person you see every morning on the 9am train. It’s okay to have lustful thoughts we all do, they are fantasies. However not all fantasies need to be brought to life. Just be careful & honest.
Hey Dami! I’m in an interracial relationship and I find that people are either always trying to make my relationship a political statement or try to make it out like being a couple of two different races is something so crazy and “extraordinary”. These people are friends, family members, acquaintances etc. Where as we feel like we’re just two people that like each-other. It just makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes, but I manage to get over it every time. I see it in my boyfriend that it’s effecting him, and I’m really scared because it’s taking a toll on the relationship. We’ve been together for 2 years and I adore him more than ever. If it was up to me, I would just ignore it and move on, interracial relationships are not uncommon anymore, nor are they superior. Neither of our families seem to approve of our relationship, but in the beginning we both agreed that we wouldn’t let it affect us but now it feels like maybe it was a childish fantasy ? I’m 22 years old from a turkish background and he’s 23 with a Nigerian background. What do I do oloni? I feel so confused, should it really affect us this much? Thanks in advance x
13. May 2015
It’s irritating that people can’t look past the colour. If you’re both happy that should be the only thing that matters. Two years is a long time, but if you want this to really work, you have to speak to your partner and let him know how you feel.
You’re both going to have to speak to your families and ask them kindly to respect your relationship.
You’re right interrelationships are very common, but even if it wasn’t that isn’t the point. Figuring out how you’ll both move past the negativity is.
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