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My girlfriend keeps crying after sex. It puts me off. She tells me it has nothing to do with me and she enjoys it. She says she doesn’t know why, but every time we have intercourse she feels overwhelmed with emotion after. I find it really uncomfortable and it ruins the experience. I have tried to be supportive but it’s a bit exhausting. It makes me feel like an abuser.
18. May 2015
You need to sit her down when you’re not having sex and ask her why she gets this way. Some women do cry after an intense orgasm, but if it’s bothering you or you feel that may not be it, explain what you just told me to her.
Hi I recently well a while ago met a guy. At the begin in of our relationship he was so sweet to me I actually felt like I was the luckiest girl but I was aware of the ‘honeymoon stage’ however things were good. As of now things are not as joyful as they were before. Our conversations are so dull and I was certain that he was losing interest but he said that in no way was that the case but I can’t help but wonder as he’s taking a nonchalant attitude with me. I of course confronted him about it but he finds a way to blame me saying I’ve changed. Whenever he criticises me I take it not into offence but instead dispute my side respectfully but when I tell him things I don’t like he insults me by saying I’m mad. To add insult to injury he says he doesn’t want a relationship at the moment but he is treating us like it is one and he even has noticed. I just need help in getting my point across and to be firm with what I want. What I want is a relationship that although we argue we always make up and I don’t allow him to make me feel sad. I really do like him but at the same time I can’t see how things will get better.
18. May 2015
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Hi Oloni, I sent you a dilemma a while back about being in the same friendship as the guy I was seeing and how we slept together but he stopped hollering the same way. You said he may be losing interest and I should s peak to him about and not let myself feel like I was just a beat. Well anyway I saw him again (same friendship group) when we had a moment alone, I told him that I felt he lashed and dashed and he said that no he feels like I’m the one that vanished and how he sometimes feel that I’m the one that doesn’t want to talk to him or like him. I want to believe him but I can’t help but feel it was because he wanted something from me then and there (I ended up performing fellatio in him) am I being paro?
18. May 2015
You gave in, he played the right cards and said the things he knows you wanted to hear. I may be wrong but see how he behaves now.
Hi, although I’ve learned to find it quite funny, I personally believe I’m like a badluck/goodluck charm, like literally 70% of the times I stop seeing a guy, they always manage to be in what seems a successful relationship not long after me? It just baffles me as to what did I do wrong? And why I couldn’t get to the relationship stage with them, this happened to me several times, even with exs. Is there something wrong with me or is it my luck? I’ve never actually experienced a full relationship
18. May 2015
You might be giving too much of yourself instead of enjoying the dating phase. So yes, it is you. But that’s okay because hopefully you’re learning from these experiences, you’re not bad luck, you’re just not exercising the ability to see or date other people. Usefully when people have this issue that’s the reason. If it’s not exclusive, keep fishing.
Hi Oloni I’m desperate for your help. I’m being forced into an abortion I really don’t want. The father is blackmailing me into doing it. I know I’ll hate myself once it’s done. I don’t know what to do
18. May 2015
Please do not do anything you do not want to. And if you’re being blackmailed cut off all forms of communication from him and seek help from either family of incredibly close friends.
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