A 21-Year-Old Woman Explains How She Got Her Sugar Daddy

 ‘I get £600 cash every Friday off my sugar daddy and gifts. He has bought me jewellery, perfumes, make up, shoes, handbags and money towards holidays.’

When people utter the words ‘sugar daddy’ you usually imagine a 60-year- old man, married with kids and a dog who also owns many businesses with far too much money to spend. And what about the women they spend their money on? The sugar babies, yes. You’d probably assume they’re a new breed of prostitutes who rather have things, well money handed to them, but are they really? After all isn’t the job of a prostitute more straight forward? All they have to do is sleep with the guy and never hear from him again in exchange for money.

However, delving deeper into the world of sugar daddy relationships reveals a complexity beyond these stereotypes. While financial support is undoubtedly a component, many of these relationships are built on mutual respect, companionship, and genuine connection. Sugar babies often seek mentorship, emotional support, and life guidance from their older partners. It’s not merely a transaction but a nuanced interaction where both parties find something they’re looking for. To gain a more comprehensive understanding, exploring personal experiences and narratives on this topic can provide valuable insights. If you’re curious to learn more about the diverse dynamics within sugar daddy relationships, consider checking out this website here, where real stories shed light on the multifaceted nature of these connections.

By delving into these stories and experiences, one can recognize that the dynamics of sugar daddy relationships, like any other relationship, vary widely. They highlight the diverse spectrum of human connections and the myriad ways people seek companionship and support. While societal judgments persist, understanding these relationships in their full complexity challenges preconceived notions about love, intimacy, and human nature. It reminds us that genuine connections can manifest in unexpected forms, teaching us the importance of empathy and open-mindedness in understanding the intricacies of modern relationships.

I joined the website Seeking Arrangement an online social media platform for sugar daddies and sugar babies. A dating service used to find, well the quite obvious. I signed up to have a good look at how things were ran. It was like the Facebook for millionaires! Sugar babies had their preferences as to what they were looking for, whilst the sugar daddies ticked their net worth and annual income boxes.

I’ve always had friends who had someone they weren’t committed to take care of them financially, but nothing that ever lasted long. They usually called it quits once they got how much they needed or if he started wanting some sort of sexual pleasure.

I spoke to a 21-year-old girl named Helen from London who told me about her sugar daddy she’s had since August last year. I wanted to know the ins and outs of the arrangement and the benefits she received.

‘I didn’t really plan on having a sugar daddy, this guy contacted me online and bought me things off an Amazon wish list so I just decided to go with it,’ she says.

‘The first time I met him he took me shopping and gave me money. That’s how it started, I was shocked like wtf this guy just gave me all this money for what!? Now I see him at one of his properties, an apartment in the city, which he has given me the keys to.’

’I get £600 cash every Friday off my sugar daddy and gifts. He has bought me jewellery, perfumes, make up, shoes, handbags and money towards holidays.’

‘He has a wife and a family but says he’s very happy with that. I’m just someone he treats, which I’m more than happy with.’

Helen also tells me about the age of her sugar daddy and shares what he gets in return.

‘My current sugar daddy is 39, I don’t really care about age, I don’t want to marry this man.

‘He gets my time in return. I have slept with my sugar daddy but I don’t believe our agreement is about sex. He is a busy man who owns a few companies and this is how he gets his kicks.’

‘I hardly mention his family and I don’t feel guilty now, I feel lucky.’

Helen also adds: ‘The arrangement was at my discretion, I don’t have to sleep with him if I don’t want to and haven’t if I didn’t want to. He understands that.’

‘When I first met him I didn’t kiss him or sleep with him, it was on the fourth date when I decided to have sex. I act like his girlfriend, we kiss, cuddle and he tells me about his day. His stresses at work whilst I listen.’

‘I never give my input or drone on about my day unless he asks. I feel like he’s giving me money to be some sort of break from his real life and all the stress that comes with it.’

Although Helen admits to sleeping with a married man, she also explains how she feels towards his relationship with his wife by saying: ‘At first I think I felt a bit guilty, just thinking imagine if my dad was doing this and how I’d feel. But he explained he loved his family and would never leave them. There isn’t anything wrong with his marriage he just likes to spend time with other women. I’ve asked what his wife would think and he says “What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”. I hardly mention his family and I don’t feel guilty now, I feel lucky.’

‘A few of my close girls know about my sugar daddy. Some laugh and ask questions the others want advice on how to get one themselves.’

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I asked Helen if she had any golden rules to having a sugar daddy and she said: ‘Do not get attached and catch feelings. Although he may be attractive and give you everything you want don’t fall in love with him, detach yourself if that’s possible.

‘Never beg for things. If he is willing to spend his cash on you, you won’t have to beg

‘It’s unlikely to bump into a potential sugar daddy in Asda but you never know. Also don’t tolerate time wasters. If he promises you things and doesn’t come through just block him.’

Helen is not in a relationship and told me that if she was in a serious commitment, she’d ‘cut ties’ with her sugar daddy.

‘I don’t think many men would understand or cope with their partner having one,’

‘I would encourage other women to get a sugar daddy. If a good looking, wealthy guy wants to spoil you then why not? You’re not hurting anyone. It won’t last forever so take advantage, men enjoy spoiling pretty intelligent women and so they should.’

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