Do You Give To Receive?

“Eww, she’s a slag…she’s dirty. How can she give him head?”

I think we’ve all been around when these kind of immature comments have been made. But as time progressed we grew older and realised oral sex was perfectly normal.

There was a time where it was such a taboo subject that the mere mention of it could leave you victim to name calling. But now it seems to be the norm – for women anyway.

However I have a female friend who finds the idea of a man going down completely disgusting. She was talking to a guy who always offered to go down on her, and she could not stand it. Eventually she had to cut off communication. Poor guy.

I’ve also heard of men saying they find giving AND receiving degrading and disrespectful. Weird.

What I don’t understand is why these perceptions still exist? The time it was something to be hidden or ashamed of has long passed. We’re all grown, and the furthest thing away from being virgins!

I can understand that some people may not enjoy it, the same way people may not enjoy giving or receiving anal sex. Each to their own.

However, the idea that a lot of people do not go down on their partners, but are well and ready to receive it, disturbs me. Relationships, of a sexual or emotional kind, includes moments of selflessness and pleasing each other. If your partner doesn’t want to go down on you, keep your head up!