Is She Emotionally Slutty?
Emotional Slut: Someone who reveals all their emotional baggage to anyone who will listen. Relates to someone who talks about ALL their problems.
Females are the most perplexed type of human beings, we all know this. We hardly ever know what we want and logic is the only thing that is alien to us especially when emotions are involved. Emotional sluts aren’t like your ordinary sluts, oh no. There are no ‘daddy issues’ to justify their emotional promiscuity. The problem some of us as females have is we give our emotions to the wrong people. In this case, men. Yes, those lovely creatures, causing our hearts to break very easily.
The Power
Are emotional sluts aware of their traits? Some are and some in fact use it on purpose during a relationship.
How you ask? Let me explain.
Most emotional sluts understand how strong a relationship can be built if it’s fed off emotions. They can also be false adverts towards the gullible. With the baggage they release they create a false attachment causing the man to believe there is some connection when, in actuality, it’s superficial. As the man, you feel as if you’ve created a bond with someone who was an absolute stranger just a few weeks ago. Do such connections exist and can they happen just like that? Of course. Sometimes. The sad part is not knowing if it’s genuine or just someone playing mind games which can ruin the innocence and excitement of getting to know someone new. As a result, you become on edge, reluctant to trust, and hesitant to be free with your own emotions. That’s the power emotions can have- provoking a desire for more to fulfil subconscious calls for intimacy, unknowing to the other party that it is all illusory. Nothing more than a fantasy to give the other party the upper hand. In this case, the woman.
The acquaintance
Emotional sluts not only deal with men, they too swing both ways. I knew an emotional slut who wasn’t one with just men, but to anyone she met. The worst- Within 5 minutes of conversation, I knew about her family drama and the abortion she had at age 15. Perhaps I was just easy to talk to or maybe she suffered from verbal diarrhoea? Sometimes discretion is key. Trust is something everyone is deserving off, especially a perfect stranger. Knowledge can be as powerful a tool to generate advice as it can be to wound you. Information can be used as a weapon so careful how much you surrender. You never know, you could be giving someone ammunition to stab you in the back, make a mockery of you or exploit your weaknesses. People often forget they themselves can be the instrument in their own misfortune, making themselves vulnerable for no reason at all. Ladies, common sense can make all the difference between being an emotional slut and a lady understanding of the subtle art of privacy.
The easy
I have a friend called Stephen. Stephen and I often talk about the different women he comes across. He once told me about a girl he’d known for only a week and how she told him her whole ‘past’. She confided in him and shared secrets she thought would make them possibly closer. An insecure method of gaining some sort of trust in exchange, you could say. Most girls desire to have an emotional connection over sex, it keeps things interesting. But what happens after? Some men thrive off emotional sluts. It makes them think, ‘Well if she opened up to me that easily, I wonder what else she’d open?’ and that’s exactly how Stephen felt. A few months later after sleeping with her, Stephen got tired and moved on to his next victim, only to be left with a scorned emotional slut who couldn’t let go. There are 101 ways on how you can be an emotional slut, this can be through baggage from relationships and friendships. To steer away from being emotionally slutty, we as women should try to remain a mystery. No guy wants to know how your ex cheated with your bestfriend numerous times even after you took him back after the first phone call and apology. Opening up to a guy and allowing him to know the little things which are vital about you. Now, the skeletons in your closet shouldn’t be something which you allow anyone access to that easily. Shouldn’t this take just as much time as other things? Shouldn’t your feelings and emotions etc be earned? Doesn’t that hold some type of value?
‘I revealed too much too soon. I was emotionally slutty’- C. Bradshaw
