The Men Who Cheat To Be With You

A lot of women have e-mailed me regarding the fact that they have identified themselves as ‘the other woman’ in hopes that the guy they are having an affair with will soon leave his girlfriend to be with them and them alone.

In some cases men do leave their girlfriend for the girl they are cheating on emotionally or physically with. Will the relationship be successful? Now that’s another question.

I’ve always responded to readers by asking, why they would want someone who is unfaithful. Women who are found in this predicament often believe that they are the exception and the position they are in is different to the other thousands of other women who are sleeping with a man who is in a relationship.

If a relationship is based off an affair, there is a high possibility that’s how it will end.

It’s like the 80/20 post I wrote a while back, when some men cheat they are using it as a void to fill in what is missing from their relationship. It’s a realm they escape to. So assuming you’re the 80 that he will run off into the sunset with should not be what you hope for.

I know some women are probably wondering why some men cheat, so have a read..

Statistics show that 77% of men who cheat have friends who also commit to the same dirty work. I guess the whole ‘birds of a feather flock together’ saying would come into mind here.

Their mindset is ‘Well he’s a good guy, who loves his girl, so I guess it can’t be that bad’. When your partner is around someone who influences his actions, he too will follow the footsteps.

40% of men admitted that the woman they had an affair with was someone who they met at work. According to counselor M. Gary Neuman who surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating men: “Often times the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts.’

66% admitted to feeling guilty during the affair Neuman reported: ‘Clearly, guilt isn’t enough to stop a man from cheating. “Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings,” Neuman explains. “They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later.” So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don’t assume it can’t happen. It’s important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.’