7 Steps To Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

One of the questions I receive from women the most is ‘How do I get my ex-boyfriend back?’. And although people often say, you should never return to an old flame, there’s no denying that sometimes, a second chance isn’t always a bad idea.

In fact there are several couples who need to go through a breakup to realise how much they need to be with each other and end up in a happier place.

So, you’ve been single for a while and it’s clear that no other guy is going to match up to the amazing qualities your ex had. No one else will make you smile like he did, take a serious interest in your work, give you great advice when needed. You probably didn’t think your break up would last this long, but now it’s seriously hit you, that you might never get him back. So before you delete all his photos on your Instagram, try some of these tips that could possibly get you and your ex-boyfriend back together.

1) Look and feel good! – Not just a hairstyle, a new wardrobe too! When you have a new look you feel good and even more attractive. Hit the gym more and work on your post break-up body. This will eventually show your ex what he’s missing and have him drooling over your Facebook feed, wondering if he made the right decision to let the relationship end. Because let’s face it, we’re all guilty of social media stalking.

2) The No Contact Rule – The no contact rule is another amazing way to get your ex love interest back into your life.

The No Contact Rule = Is that you cut off all communication with your ex for a certain amount of time with the intent of making them miss you.

Usually when we cut off all types of communication for a lengthy period of time, it gives both parties enough time to think about why the relationship ended and whether or not it’s the right move to reconnect.

Keep yourself busy throughout the no contact period phase, pick up a new hobby, spend more time with your friends, do that thing you’ve put off for ages because you’ve never quite had the time.

3) Ask to meet up and talk – Picking up the phone to text or call may come as a surprise to your ex, especially if you haven’t spoken or seen each other in a while. Use this moment to explain that you’d like a chance to meet up and discuss past issues.

If you get a positive response, this usually shows that there is a slight chance that they’re open to resolving what made you both part ways or generally be interested in hearing what you have to say. Either way it’s good, so don’t ruin it!

Ways you shouldn’t communicate:

• Drunk text messages exclaiming how much you miss him and want to meet up. – Come on girl, do you really wanna look needy?
• Calling and yelling down the phone. – Crazy, much?
• Posting indirect statuses on social media. – This isn’t going to get you the attention you actually want.

4) New attitude, who’s this? – If the breakup was caused by your behaviour and attitude, use the time spent apart to work on it and show him that you’ve changed. Now I’m not saying your personality has to go out the window, but if you can identify your mistakes, work on it and apologise.

5) Date him again – You don’t want to jump right into things, now do you? Suggest dating like strangers with your ex and get to know each other like you’ve just met. You’ll be able to move forward together slowly and see if this relationship is definitely what you both want and has what it takes to really work this time around.

6) Remind him of how lucky he was to be with you – He was in a relationship with you for a reason, so jog his memory. Was it because of your kindness? Your goofy humour? Or perhaps the breathtaking chemistry you both had once sat in a room together?

7) Don’t take advantage – You can see that all the other steps are helping, you’re getting closer to him, he’s been reminded as to why you both got into a relationship before the break up. Your ex-boyfriend might just be thinking about committing to you again, so don’t take advantage of what you’ve worked towards

If you’re 100% positive he’s still what you want after spending more time together, then make sure that you remain the same person. Often, when we try to make new adjustments to our behaviour or personality we slip up and fade back into our old ways and take advantage of the chances we were given prior. Try to be careful, because if old habits creep back again, you’ll have wasted so much time and energy only to be apart again.

Recommitment tip:
For a healthier relationship, make sure you’re communicating more. Learn from your past mistakes to create a better bond between the two of you!

Try some of these steps and let me know if they worked by tweeting me here @Oloni or @SimplyOloni

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