Why Every 18 to 20 Something Year Old Should Be Selfish

“The years between eighteen and twenty-eight are the hardest, psychologically. It’s then you realize this is make or break, you no longer have the excuse of youth, and it is time to become an adult.” – Helen Mirren

Mentally they are; from deciding to what career path you want to go down, what degree to take, the dating game, trying to figure out who you are and what you actually want to do in life. You’re deemed an adult at the age of 18 therefore expected to act responsible, even though you’re a teenager. But how is that so if you’re still treated like a kid and ‘apparently’ less knowledgeable than your elders?

Finding your passion

This is the time you get see what you like and don’t like. What would you like in your life?  Relationships, career and recreational. If you don’t know what your passion is, perhaps take a class, in maybe dance? Art? Singing? Acting? A Poetry Slam? Skiing? Football? A book club?


Every human being is a walking brand. Every human represents’ themselves, everywhere you head, you are representing yourself and you’re promoting yourself. It’s important to know how to sell yourself and pitch ideas to a potential employer. Could you come up with a list of positive attributes of yourself? What are your strengths, what are your weaknesses that you would perhaps like to improve on? What set of skills could you put on the table? What do you want to be known for?


Your number one priority is YOURSELF. ‘Me, Myself & I, from now on Imma be own best friend’. Okay, okay, so you don’t have to totally isolate yourself from the rest of the word, but you have to understand that working on yourself improves YOU later on in life.

These are the years to be selfish because, you can make mistakes and learn. You can learn new things and make mistakes, the point is these are the years that you must take advantage of before you find yourself at 30 saying ‘woulda shoulda coulda’. You have to be selfish to be self-full.

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Freda Lee

Freda Lee

Namaste; Call me Freda Lee. The Editor's PA and lifestyle writer.
Also a 20 year old undergraduate dance student, who pens poetry.

1 Comment

  1. December 17, 2014 at 1:42 pm — Reply

    I agree! Being selfish in this context completely makes sense after all how can you help others if you have not truly taken time out to define who you are as an individual. Many of us including myself have been guilty of pursuing what ‘society’ or ‘our parents’ want us to do. We don’t even consider alternatives. Live life on your own terms and live without regrets.

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