The Ex And The Sex

I think every girl has at least one friend who claims she is over someone but still goes back for sex. This may be fine for a short while, but eventually it can turn into a habit, and as we all know, habits are hard to break.

Sometimes sex is used because we feel that it is a way to gain control over someone. If we have sex with them then we are in control of the situation, but that is not true most of the time. Here are some ways to get over this issue:

• Satisfy your own urges – we all know that masturbation and sex toys cannot be compared to the real deal but that’s the only way you’d be able to at least dampen your desires without finding yourself back in his bed. You’re also more likely to orgasm! Double bonus.
• Spend more time with your friends – it’s a well known fact that the more time you spend by yourself the more time you have to think – and to fantasise. Spending time with your friends is a great way to distract yourself, and can even be a time for you to vent about whatever you are feeling. You can go to watch a movie, go out to eat, or just stay inside and order a takeaway. Whatever it is, your friends can only make you feel better.
• Find a hobby – as cliché as it may sound, this is a way to find what you are good at and allow it to take up your time. This doesn’t mean that you should start knitting or horse riding, but you could start your own blog – whether it’s a private or not is totally up to you!
• Start dating – some people claim that they still sleep with their ex because they want ‘no strings attached sex’. However, if you have dated someone and are always going back to them, most of the time it’s because there still some kind of feelings there. If you start dating you can find someone else who interests you, and who can keep your mind off your ex.
• Re-evaluate – the best way I think you can get over someone and being in their bed is to question why you aren’t together. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone then why would you want to sexually satisfy them? If he was not good enough to keep your heart then why is he good enough to get into your knickers?

This article may not relate to everyone who sleeps with someone they were once seeing – as there are some who have and do have successful ‘no strings attached’ sex. But for those of you who are having some issues letting go of your ex, especially his private parts, buy a dildo, they never answer back.