Relationship Shaming
I don’t even know if “relationship shaming” is an actual thing. But, I do know that I have witnessed several people talk a whole bunch of shit about couples they do not know. Not even celebrities… normal people like you and I, who might just be a few mutual friends away.
Due to social media, it’s so easy to find out out the in’s and out’s of the relationships of some. Well, that’s what we’re lead to believe, right? For instance, if we put up photos with our loving partners, it means everything is all sweet and rosey, and he or she look like the best partner in the world for sharing blah blah blah.
If the photos have been removed, then the couple have apparently split up. This then becomes the topic of conversation for people who know very little.
Another example?
There are several people who turn their noses up at women who have been cheated on in a relationship by that partner. Now in no way am I condoning cheaters/cheating and not that it should matter to others, but some do not realise that cheating doesn’t always automatically mean the termination of a relationship or that things can not be discussed and eventually worked out.
That’s not good enough for the “relationship shamers” though? The girlfriend, in this instance, has to be a ‘new type of idiot’ in their eyes.
They will talk about couples who are clearly happy and look for any reason to find something wrong with their happiness.
What about if you know these “relationship shamers”? I used to have a friend named Taylor, and all she did was speak about what she thought was weird in other people’s loving relationships. She’d look for reasons to put them down. There was always some sort of derogatory comment that leaped from her tongue when discussing other couples, ‘Oh they’re never going to last, her last boyfriend had a good job, how could she downgrade to that? I doubt she’s seriously happy…’
These types of people are NOT always single, which can sometimes explain why they have such a crabby attitude towards others. They sometimes believe they know everything about relationships, which makes them feel entitled to judge the success of the love lives of others.
“Relationship shamers” look for any kind of excuse to discuss the traits of the interrelations of others.They thrive off voicing their undesired opinion continuously. Whether asked for or not.
If you are friends with a “relationship shamer`’, avoid telling them any troubles you face as they are toxic people. To have an opinion about your love life is one thing. Constantly speaking out of turn and scrutinising your love life is another thing entirely.
What a lot people do not understand is that no relationship is perfect. Couples fight, they break up and sometimes get back together. It’s very common and nothing out of the ordinary. You and I could go through it, so why do so many of us forget this? Are we too busy shaming others that we feel our own love life is beyond reproach and absent of flaws or is it just easier to point at the mess of others?
