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Hey lovely. I met a guy online about a month ago & we’ve hit it off and been talking ever since. We’re going out for drinks soon. But he has a five month old daughter. I don’t mind guys with kids but she’s so young and I keep thinking about wtf happened between him & his daughter’s mother. I really want to ask but not sure if it’s too soon or should I just lock him off, after all it’s still early days?
4. January 2017
Ooh not a fan of guys with new born kids out on the look for someone date. You need to ask what happened between him and the mother of his child.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with this older guy for 8 months. I’m 17, he’s 21. When we started talking, we agreed it wasn’t going to be a relationship but we would beat(stupid me); 8 months down the line I think I’ve caught unwanted feelings and I don’t want to drop the L Bomb or even scare him away. I actually like him so much but he only seems to want sex. Should i just forget about my feelings and continue what I started or just lock everything off?
4. January 2017
You need to lock everything off hun. You’re 17 and shouldn’t be sleeping with a 21 y/0 and I’m very sure he knows that.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I was in a situation where I was seeing a guy for over a year. I am 24, he is 25. Our time together included going on weekend breaks away, him taking me on dates often, going to each other’s houses and the man coming to my family dinners and meet-ups with my friends. We ended things and I then discovered that he had a girlfriend for the entire time our situation was going on. Do I tell the partner everything or just leave it; seeing as things have ended between myself and the man in question? I think she should know what her partner has been getting up to.
4. January 2017
Hey hun, stay out of it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve recently started talking to someone new. He’s taken me on several dates and all is good so far. The thing is, via his instagram, I’ve seen him in pictures with 3 guys that I’ve been intimate with in the past. I haven’t asked him about them directly, but from what I’ve seen on social media, I’m able to presume he is friends with these 3 guys. Just my luck lol. I don’t plan on ever asking him “do you know ____?”, but right now I feel like I’m walking on egg shells because it’s only a matter of time before he finds out I’ve had relations with his friends/people he knows and I’m 90% sure he’ll instantly lose interest in me. This is bothering me to the point where I’ve considered just not dating him anymore to save myself the embarrassment. What do I do ?
4. January 2017
Hey girl, ahh so many of us have been in this position before. I think you should have a mature conversation and let him know. It’s better it comes from you than one of his friends.
If you discuss it, it then gives him the chance to decide what he’d like to do with your relationship. I know plenty of couples who have carried on dating despite an odd fling that may have occurred with a friend in the past.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m in a situation where I am so tempted to message a girl on a “I come to you as a woman” vibe. Last year met this older guy I’m 20 , he’s 29 whilst on holiday. He seemed so nice and lovely and was really into me and was proper pursuing me taking me on dates,cruise dinners, shopping trips , VIP table /bottles for my girls he is a well known producer and was just spending literally over £2,000 just for my time not sex. He even told me when we get back to London we need to meet up because this can’t end on holiday . When we got back to London we eventually went on various dates , chilled and had sex (he took my virginity- which I’m not pressed about) anyway I found out he has been engaged for over two years via twitter . I was so upset because I felt like I was falling in love with him and saw a long term future for us .I asked him about it and he blocked me, then called me on private admitting that he is engaged and they live together – this means I’ve had sex in her bed 🙁 . He then asked me to meet up and talk which I declined and told him to just forget about me and what we did – his response was that ” I’m being a stupid little girl if I’m letting what I see online ruin what we have”. I’m trying to end our relationship but he just won’t listen and keeps popping up, I’ve blocked him on everything but he just finds a way to contact me or lurks around my twitter. His newest tactic is to threaten to take my car which he put money towards if I don’t stop my “childish behaviour” His girl deserves a lot better and I deserve time to move on and not to be harassed. I really want to tell her so he can get out of my life but I’m worried if I do then he’ll see it as I’m wanting him in my life not hers… if that makes sense
3. January 2017
Oh wow what a huge pickle.
So many questions to ask here, but I’ll just tell you what I think you should do. First off, he has more to lose than you. What a silly man. Threaten to get the police involved and to tell his wife so he can leave you alone. His behaviour is disgusting and if it still carries on, do not make those threats empty and move forward by telling the police and and his wife (?) to be.
Sometimes in life we come across nasty people disguised as angels. I don’t want this to warp your view of men, because the reality is not all dudes behave this way. I hope you are able to get out of this situation as it’s incredibly worrying. I’d also suggest that you try to get a new number, just for peace of mind.
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