Will You Be My Girlfriend?

This is the question that brought much joy to us girls back in school but we wouldn’t really expect to hear such a thing these days.

So then how do we know where we stand? I mean, you’re seeing each other often, staying at each other’s houses, sleeping together – Doing things that couples do.

But yet many of my friends would still claim they are not in one.

Does this question still need to be raised?

On one hand I would say that this isn’t something that needs to be asked and replied to as if you’re back in the school playground. A relationship can easily be slipped into. Or as some would say, ‘when you know, you know.’

However, I do believe that some kind of conversation needs to happen where both parties know where they stand. Or you could easily end up in a situation where one person feels the relationship is going in a certain direction and the other person doesn’t feel the same. One feels they are in a relationship while the other is just bored and filling time (or an emotional void – but that’s for another day!)

This also does not mean that whoever is telling you they want you to be their other half is being 100% genuine either. As cliché as it may sound; ‘actions speak louder than words.’

What do you guys think? Is it necessary to have these conversations still? Do relationships still need to be defined?