Hey love! There are several of women who have been in your position and at the end of the day, who you sleep with doesn’t define who you are as a person. If you’re able to sit back and reevaluate why you felt you were having a lot of sex, then to me that shows growth. Some people sleep around aimlessly without a clue, whilst others know that they simply enjoy having sex which isn’t a bad thing.

I understand in today’s society many still frown upon what a woman chooses to do with her body, but there is a guy out there who will accept you for you. Any guy who walks away from the person you are after being honest isn’t who you should want in your life.

As for sharing your past sexual partners, unless you’re having a conversation about your sexual health I wouldn’t understand why it needs to be spoken about.

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Hi Oloni, I’m in a situation where I am so tempted to message a girl on a “I come to you as a woman” vibe. Last year met this older guy I’m 20, he’s 29 whilst on holiday. He seemed so nice and lovely and was really into me and was proper pursuing me, taking me on dates, cruise dinners, shopping trips , VIP table/bottles for my girls he is a well known producer and was just spending literally over £2,000 just for my time not sex. He even told me when we get back to London we need to meet up because this can’t end on holiday.

When we got back to London we eventually went on various dates, chilled and had sex (he took my virginity- which I’m not pressed about) anyway, I found out he has been engaged for over two years via twitter . I was so upset because I felt like I was falling in love with him and saw a long term future for us. I asked him about it and he blocked me, then called me on private admitting that he is engaged and they live together – this means I’ve had sex in her bed.

He then asked me to meet up and talk which I declined and told him to just forget about me and what we did – his response was that “I’m being a stupid little girl if I’m letting what I see online ruin what we have”.

I’m trying to end our relationship but he just won’t listen and keeps popping up, I’ve blocked him on everything but he just finds a way to contact me or lurks around my twitter. His newest tactic is to threaten to take my car which he put money towards if I don’t stop my “childish behaviour” – His girl deserves a lot better and I deserve time to move on and not to be harassed.

I really want to tell her so he can get out of my life but I’m worried if I do then he’ll see it as I’m wanting him in my life not hers… if that makes sense. – Anonymous

Oh wow what a huge pickle.

So many questions to ask here, but I’ll just tell you what I think you should do. First off, he has more to lose than you. What a silly man. Threaten to get the police involved and to tell his wife so he can leave you alone. His behaviour is disgusting and if it still carries on, do not make those threats empty and move forward by telling the police and and his wife (?) to be.

Sometimes in life we come across nasty people disguised as angels. I don’t want this to warp your view of men, because the reality is not all dudes behave this way. I hope you are able to get out of this situation as it’s incredibly worrying. I’d also suggest that you try to get a new number, just for peace of mind.

This is so messy. Why would you even want a relationship with him? Your ex’s half brother and he’s clearly cheating. Aren’t you bothered by any of this? I think you should leave his girlfriend alone.

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