Why We Don’t Want To Be The Hook-Up Culture Any More
The hook up culture primarily involves those who enjoy the sex with no strings attached lifestyle. It focuses solely on the physical without getting emotionally tied up with the person you’re experiencing sexual pleasure with.
It’s tiring, we’ve finally decided that getting to know someone over a meal or planning a day out is more enticing than wondering if he’ll ever call again. I mean sure we love sexual liberation, I LOVE it, but should sexual liberation totally wipe out the dating culture and be replaced with hooking up? I saw a tweet earlier this week that spoke on the different categories of relationship statuses in America. Dating, single and taken. I honestly feel like over here in the UK it’s either seeing, sleeping or both.
I won’t act like the hook up culture isn’t also rife there. But I’ve never heard a woman in her mid 20’s here tell me she’s ‘just dating at the moment’ you know actually going on dates a couple times a week. It’s usually just her seeing that one person. We’re not keeping our options open, but instead we get disheartened when the guy we were hooking up with turns cold after a few Netflix couch dates and sex (You so saw that Netflix line coming, and know someone who can relate, don’t play.)
We’re either becoming lazy daters or just scared of rejection so we settle for sex… It’s no wonder we always participate in the sex on the first night debate. We’re telling ourselves that it doesn’t really matter when you sleep with a guy, because if he was truly interested nothing would change and although that holds a lot of truth, this shouldn’t make us fall blind and refuse to enjoy the ‘getting-to-know-each-other’ period. Slowly some of us are being convinced by others that dating is a waste of time. Well yes, it is if you’re going to the movies and not actually having a conversation.
Dating has been around for centuries, even if it wasn’t called that exactly, but there’s a reason as to why it has worked for so long. When I was at university hooking up was the norm, but after speaking to a lot of friends it seems as if the norm then didn’t prepare them for the after university experience.
It’s always important to realise what you want from the opposite sex. Do you want to date? Or are you after sexual attention and rather play the field? There’s nothing wrong with either remember this. Just don’t use one to replace the other.
