Private vs Secret Relationships
Relationships are suppose to be a bond between two people, who have a huge amount of feelings for each other. Some express these feelings to the WORLD and want everyone to know how happy they are, whilst others rather keep it low key.
I’ve always said there’s a difference between a private Beyonce and Jay-Z type relationship and a secret one. If you’re in a relationship and you’re partner doesn’t want people to know you’re together, you’re probably a secret, unless he’s cheating and you’re the side girl, mistress etc. I understand people wanting to be private about their shit and that’s completely fine. Privacy within a relationship is golden anyway, it becomes more precious and instantly has a greater value.
I had a friend who was with guy for nearly over a year. She was head over heels and literally planned her life around him. She cooked, cleaned for him, gave him money and even planned trips away. What was sad was the fact literally nobody knew about it. In the eyes of others, they’d see he had a keeper. It’s like the saying however, cow, milk, free? Only he kept his milk a secret.
Call me crazy, but I just believe if you’re with someone you should be able to scream about it from time to time. Then again, It all comes down to what type of person you are. When people know you’re in a relationship, half the time it gets rid of the thirsty assholes. Whilst when others don’t know what your status is they see it a being kept a secret, so try to intrude.
Now I’m not saying you should instantly go ahead and change your relationship status on Facebook to the person who you’re with, but you have to think about it, if your relationship is being kept quiet without you choosing to do so, isn’t something wrong?
‘Privacy & secrecy about a relationship to others are two different things. Keep our shit private, yes. Keep me a secret, you’re bloody mad.’