Can I Have Sex With Him After Her?

Fighting over dick has got to be one of the most known and oldest cause of a fall out between two girlfriends. We may think that it isn’t, but in reality we all know two women who have stopped communicating over a disagreement to do with a guy…and his dick.

Dating or having sex with a dude your friend was involved with can be seen as the biggest stab in the back to several women, whilst others couldn’t care less. And why should they if it was a long time ago? You can’t continue to hold on to something when the type of relationship you had didn’t mean anything but just the physical.

Are there rules to sleeping with a guy your friend has had any type of sexual experience with? Does he need to be a type of ex? Not an ex-boyfriend but like an ex-fwb, or a one night stand-ex? An I occasionally-give-head-to-ex? What makes his penis off bounds?

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Is dick becoming that limited or do we need to be careful of how we talk about a dudes sex game in front of our friends? What IS IT?

I once had a good friend called Francesca and she had a best friend named Louise. I knew the friendship between the two wasn’t the greatest when the guy Louise was ‘seeing’ broke it off with her and Francesca slept with him a day later.

I remember Frans phone ringing but under a girls name ‘Kemi’ I passed her the phone only to hear a male voice. After a few giggles she got off the phone. She had sneakily saved his number under something else in case she got caught out by Louise. Why you ask? So did I. She replied saying she heard he was amazing in bed and even suggested ‘I try him’.

You might think these are the type of girls you shouldn’t leave around your boyfriend, and quite honestly they are. Boyfriend, brother and uncle for that matter.

But what about the women who respectfully tell you they’d like to go there in terms of sex or dating? Would that be better or does the knife to the back that some feel still not change?

Telling your friend you’re interested in a guy she used to sleep with is an honest and sensible approach. Instead of going behind her back you have regarded her feelings. If you value your friendship, nothing will stop you from being straight with her especially if you like this guy that much.

‘How does she know I don’t want to revisit his body? How does she know I never had feelings for him?’

Some women understandably do not enjoy the thought of their friend having sex with a guy they once did.

A lot of women, like men enjoy talking about how great the sex is with their significant other or the person they’re sleeping with.

Who wants to have a conversation that leads to ‘Did he use his tongue to rub on your.. Yeah he did that to me too’ AWK-THE-FUCK-WARD.

Now, if your friend has made it clear she’d prefer you never slept/see a guy she was involved with, my advice? Ladies don’t go there. There is enough dick in the world to go around for you not to be daydreaming over a guy your girlfriend has had sex with. Unless you know for sure that it’ll be more than the physical, leave the situation alone.

I say that because if you know it’s more than just sex, and the past between your friend and him was a long time ago, there shouldn’t be a problem. Yes, there are some mighty grey areas but why do we as women ruin friendships over sex with men, when they practically hi5 each other for simply seeing us naked?

I’m not saying we too should have the same attitude, but we find ourselves slutshaming the honest ones who spoke up.

Are we too territorial over the wrong things such as the guy we slept with many moons ago? Or is it not the territory but the principle?