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Hi oloni, I started dating a guy who I really like, like he’s everything I wanted and more, great job, tall, great sex. We went on a date recently and on the date we were both drunk and I asked if I could wear his gold bracelet, he was reluctant but i persisted and he gave in and let me wear it. We got back to his and I noticed the bracelet fell off my arm. I told him and was so apologetic about it but he really contained his anger and didn’t say much for the rest of the night, it ruined the the rest energy for the night. After I left his I messaged him saying send me the link for the bracelet. He did and It was the exact same one so I know he wasn’t being cheeky but it cost £1400. I certainly can’t afford that right now so i just feel stuck. I feel like I’m going to lose him because of this, any advice for this situation?
10. October 2023
Girl, who sent you LOL! Maybe give him what you can afford and apologise. In future just nick a hoodie like a regular girl.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I am sick with guilt. My girls and I (all in relationships/ engaged) recently went on a girls trip to Dankie Sounds Ibiza and all 3 of us cheated on our men. This is so far from our normal “good girl” selves. But personally, I enjoyed every minute of it. My man doesn’t really pleasure me sexually but we are so compatible in every other way (sex is decent enough but he’s not as adventurous or attentive as I truly desire). This guy I met in Ibiza rocked my world I was shivering in orgasm? Like I totally forgot sex could feel that good! My friends also had similar experiences with the guys they cheated with. We’ve all sworn secrecy with one another (what happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza). But I’m still texting this guy under a fake name in my phone and I can’t help myself! What does this mean for my long term relationship. I feel so guilty when I’m with my man now and he’s probably noticing I’ve been physically distant since I got back… I just don’t know how to process what any of this means and whether I take this to the grave or tell him? PLEASE HELP ME 😢
10. October 2023
Girl omg. You know this is out of pocket and very unfair. It also sounds like sex is important to you in a relationship. Maybe it’s time you and your girls rethink whether or not you all truly want to be in a relationship? I think it’s also fair you let him go as being engaged is very serious and betraying his trust especially at this stage is just hurtful.
Oloni
Ma’am, love of my life went to jail. Looking to be gone for 2 years. Help
11. September 2023
Girl, move on. Is this your husband?
Olobi
Wassup Oloni! I need some advice please! I think I’ve fallen for this man but he and his ex only broke up 6 months ago. He says he’s moving on, and I want to wait but I don’t want to be a gf fluffer. I’m worried that waiting will be risky. What shall I do? Thank you girl!
11. September 2023
Date other people. Did the world stop? Lol!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so my gf cheated on me, we got past it but some how it ended up being part of our sexual experiences, she or myself would bring it up during sex or talk about how sneaky she was etc and she and I both really get off on it. I dunno how lol but anyway I feel like it’s very toxic way to be sexual with someone that is your partner, basically I wana shake this kink but don’t know how, any advice?
11. September 2023
Oooh this is such interesting dilemma, because you don’t hear something like this every day. I think this taps into the realm of cuckholding. Yes you’re fantasising, but it still turns you on even though you feel like it shouldn’t. if you’re both 1000% sure you’ve moved past it, then it’s up to you both to continue or stop. If you’re both ok with it, then do whatever is consensual and makes you happy. Being turned on by a partner cheating or the idea of it is more common than we actually realise.
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