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My ex broke my heart, I tried for months to get back together and we nearly did a few times. When it was finally over I went through this man whore stage and made a conscious decision not to fall for anyone as I didn’t want to get hurt like that again (she cheated on me). So I’m doing my business and start to like this girl but the guard was still very much up. She fucked me over, wasn’t apologetic at all but I learnt my lesson from last time and cut her off completely. iMessage, Whatsapp, Twitter, FB, IG, Snap, you name it, I blocked her. Now there’s a girl I fancied for a while but we never really got talking until recently. She’s a very “difficult” to crack girl at uni. Beautiful person inside and out and doesn’t free up the goods like some girls do. We’ve missed twice and message a lot, whenever I see her I can’t help but smile and feel a bit fuzzy inside, I love making her laugh and she genuinely makes me want to “retire from the baby boy lifestyle”. Problem is that she leaves for a family holiday in 2 weeks for a month then is back home until uni in October. I know I’d want to see her when she’s back in the UK but how do I handle not seeing her for ages? If we keep talking do I go and see her at some point?
15. May 2015
If you like her as much as you say and are willing to do long distance I say go for it! Going to see her would be ideal especially if this is someone you really want. I also think that before she leaves, you should really let her know how you feel so you can both agree on how you’d like the relationship to go. Good luck x
Oloni how do you remain so diplomatic on social media? I’m so proud of you you are really strengthening your brand and coming off super classy! I brought your book and I know I will never go back to my toxic relationship. You are the personification of humble x love you gurl
15. May 2015
I have no idea. I think it’s because I’ve watched those I look up to! Thank you so much your words are appreciated.
I told my ex I still had feelings for her, but she has none for me but is glad I got back in touch and is happy to be friends.. Prior to this I haven’t spoke to her properly in years when I did it’d be her starting small convos or sending me direct snaps.. Im confused so Ive cut ties too rash? She says she’ll never consider me again but was happy to meet me for a drink and out with her friends when she knew I was out the same night… Should I carry on and cut ties? Or give her awhile to catch up and be friends? Tbh I was shocked I still felt that way and I kind of alienated her. I feel bad. She told me I ruined it?? :\
15. May 2015
Do what you feel comfortable if you can handle friendship after a while, give it a go.
Relating back to the girl in an interracial relationship oloni, I am also in one and my boyfriends Ghanaian. Whenever we go over to his parents house for dinner his mum makes digs at me saying stuff like “oh see if she was Ghanaian she would’ve known…” Or just personal things like Turkish girls can’t do this or that like a black girl and so on whilst I’m sitting right next to her. Recently I over heard her telling him “she won’t be able to satisfy you like a black girl can, this won’t any last longer etc” and it really got to me I guess. obviously I respect her regardless as she’s his mother but what’s frustrating me is that my boyfriend just sits there and says nothing. I brought this issue up to him recently and we got into a major argument where he told me that maybe his mum is right and that it would probably be better if he just dated a black girl. Ive always been willing to embrace different cultures and have been appreciative of it. We’ve been together for almost 3 and a half years!!!! And I really don’t want it to end now, I feel so confused oloni idk what to do
15. May 2015
No sort of argument should ever cause your boyfriend to make such a messy statement. Yes that’s his mother and she held him for 9 months, but you’re also someone else’s child.
Instead of fighting each other speak to him and let him know how hard it is for you to handle. You shouldn’t have ton tolerate such comments.
Hello Dami, just wanted to ask a general question. Would you say that a lack of communication is the biggest cause for break-ups? Thank you x
15. May 2015
Communication amongst other things such as not being compatible, out growing each other and infidelity.
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