Ask me sex and relationship questions here anonymously. Please make questions as *brief* as possible to make sure you get a response. Please be aware that some dilemmas may be posted on social media platforms and cannot be removed on there or Ask Oloni once submitted. Not all questions sent can be answered due to the high amount received daily. For a QUICK response book aprivate callhere
Hi Oloni, I sent you a dilemma a while back about being in the same friendship as the guy I was seeing and how we slept together but he stopped hollering the same way. You said he may be losing interest and I should s peak to him about and not let myself feel like I was just a beat. Well anyway I saw him again (same friendship group) when we had a moment alone, I told him that I felt he lashed and dashed and he said that no he feels like I’m the one that vanished and how he sometimes feel that I’m the one that doesn’t want to talk to him or like him. I want to believe him but I can’t help but feel it was because he wanted something from me then and there (I ended up performing fellatio in him) am I being paro?
18. May 2015
You gave in, he played the right cards and said the things he knows you wanted to hear. I may be wrong but see how he behaves now.
Hi, although I’ve learned to find it quite funny, I personally believe I’m like a badluck/goodluck charm, like literally 70% of the times I stop seeing a guy, they always manage to be in what seems a successful relationship not long after me? It just baffles me as to what did I do wrong? And why I couldn’t get to the relationship stage with them, this happened to me several times, even with exs. Is there something wrong with me or is it my luck? I’ve never actually experienced a full relationship
18. May 2015
You might be giving too much of yourself instead of enjoying the dating phase. So yes, it is you. But that’s okay because hopefully you’re learning from these experiences, you’re not bad luck, you’re just not exercising the ability to see or date other people. Usefully when people have this issue that’s the reason. If it’s not exclusive, keep fishing.
Hi Oloni I’m desperate for your help. I’m being forced into an abortion I really don’t want. The father is blackmailing me into doing it. I know I’ll hate myself once it’s done. I don’t know what to do
18. May 2015
Please do not do anything you do not want to. And if you’re being blackmailed cut off all forms of communication from him and seek help from either family of incredibly close friends.
So there is this guy that I’ve known for 2 years, and we fell out of contact when he started college. That summer before we were really into each other, so I felt that we felt the same way about each other. Last week, I saw him at a family friend’s party, and we immediately clicked like the way we were before. I thought he was interested in me by the way he flirted with me nonstop. We started texting again, and he is so dry. I’m not sure if he just doesn’t like texting or he’s just not into me.
18. May 2015
Pick up the phone. The spark you feel over talking will not resemble the one whereby you’re texting.
Hey girl, Let me start off by letting you know how much I loved 100 questions and I can’t wait for your next project!! Okay, so here goes, I’m 24 & I’ve been speaking to a guy for about a year and recently he wanted to make things “official” and I agreed. We had sex for the first time a few days ago. Now the key part to this story is that I like to wear push-up bras as regular bras don’t do my boobs any justice because my boobs are droopy. The same night we had sex he stated how “annoyed” he was and that how he felt “deceived” because that’s not how he expected my boobs to look. He told me his attraction to me is gone :/ and he’s been acting strange ever since. now I’ve never had this kind of reaction from a guy so I don’t know how to feel. I mean I’m insecure about my boobs as it is, I wish they were perky but I’ve accepted they aren’t. I don’t know if I’m supposed to “give him space” as its only been a few days. What do I do? I know it’s a weird situation… Is it possible that you make this a qotd because maybe someone else has been in a similar situation, it could help to know what they did ? Thankyou ever so much for your help xx
18. May 2015
Thanks for getting the book. For me this is an easy one, drop him. Drop him fast and drop him now. The comments he made were highly insensitive, even if he thought that, there are some things you just do not pour out. So you wear a push up bra? At east 70% (don’t quote me, I’ve just worked in lingerie) have paddings or some sort of boost. This is how women feel more confident about themselves. If he doesn’t like it, that’s fine, he doesn’t own your body. I will make this a #qotd later tonight and please do not stop wearing your push up bras. A lot of women feel insecure about the way they look and do whatever it is to make themselves feel and look better Don’t let one idiot get to you.
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