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Hi Oloni. I am in a interracial relationship with an Asian man. The relationship is amazing he treats me well, his family love me (many said they wouldn’t) he’s everything I could ask for in a man. However in the bedroom everything is not so great, his penis is small and I find myself faking a lot of noises even orgasms. I can’t bare having bad sex forever as I feel I will end up being tempted to stray and cheat, what should I do please?
27. May 2015
It’s really up to you to decide. You can try a different routine to spice up your sex life, but don’t make fake noises just to appease his ego. Bad sex can be a deal breaker for some people, so as mentioned before it’s up to you to decide.
I met a guy who at first I didn’t like because I wasn’t sure how to handle a full in guy. He told me he likes me and wants me etc & never made me feel like he just wanted to sex me. But with time and more invested emotions I asked where this was going and he said he isn’t looking for a commitment but he likes me more than friends. I feel like we won’t be talking much no more but I don’t want to be the girl who is just there , I want him but you can’t force a commitment can you?
27. May 2015
No you can’t force it. Commitment has to be something he wants naturally, so let this ship sail and continue dating without putting too much of yourself into it.
This isn’t a relationship question but I just wanted to let you know that you’re so amazing! I hope you end up doing your radio show because you could truly be bigger than #ontopictalkshow. Keep up the good work! We love you <3
27. May 2015
Aww thank you x
What does it mean when you meet a guy, it’s evident that you are attracted to each other, you talk on Whatsapp every single day and after a month he still hasn’t even asked you on a date?
27. May 2015
He’s just not that into you.
Hey oloni, I’m 22 & married to the love of my life. We have 4 beautiful children together. My oldest is 6, and the other two are 5 & 3. I’ve recently had another and he is just 4 months old. I found out I’m 6 weeks pregnant, and I want more children but I do not physically or emotionally have the energy to bring another child into the world. My husband is very religious and will expect me to have the child. He’s told me he wanted 6 children in total. I’ve not told my husband and I don’t know what to do or where to turn. Please help. -Sanita.
26. May 2015
Hey Sanita, I’m sorry to hear about how you’re feeling, but the truth is this is your husband, your lover for life and you have to let him know, you have to speak up about your pregnancy.
A lot of women are going through this and simply cannot physically/emotionally handle the pressure of having more kids. As well as telling him about your new pregnancy, I think you should let him know HOW this is making you feel. It’s diffucult, but this shouldn’t be ignored or done to satisfy his wishes. I really do hope things work out.
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