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Oloni, I’m 18 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, never had my first kiss or even been on a date… I have many guys who approach me and are trying to take me on dates on a regular basis but I just feel really anxious about going so I always end up cancelling! What’s wrong with me Oloni? I really want to go out on these dates, experiment, see what I like and don’t like but my fear is just getting in the way! I’m not quite sure what I’m afraid of; I’m not sure if it’s maybe because I don’t have the experience! It’s so frustrating. I don’t know what to oloni, please help! Thank-you in advance! – Melissa 27. May 2015

You’re not the only 18 year old who has never been kissed Melissa, so RELAX girl.

If you want to experience the dating world, you have to go on a date. It’s probably to do with the fact that the men who are asking are probably the ones you’re not THAT interested in. You’ll be fine, especially when it’s someone you feel comfortable around.


Hi Oloni, my boyfriend keeps on posting a picture of a certain girl on his instagram and each time i confront him he says she’s a close friend. The last time he posted her picture we had a huge fight and he promised he wouldn’t do it again. We are currently in a long distance relationship and he keeps on saying we wants a future both of us however i’m having my doubts on this girl. Could she really be a close friend or am I the side chick cause he has never posted anything online about our relationship. 27. May 2015

He could be a private person. There are so many relationships that are not displayed, however I can understand why you’re second guessing yourself. So speak to him about it & explain your concerns.


Hi Oloni. That’s my question which Is QOTD.. I wrote that a few days ago. Just wanted to make it clear that I was not sleeping around at all. It was a one off. I caught chlamydia from a guy I was dating in year 11..and I was treated & cleared within like 2 weeks. Since I have written to you, my boyfriend has decided to go on a break. I’m in genuine shock if I am honest. My birthday is on Sunday..and He’s asked that we don’t see each other until mid June. I got in contact through twitter, with the guy who gave me the STI last week.. Hoping he could speak to my boyfriend and explain the story of when we were 16. My boyfriend has refused to speak to him.. But now.. The guy has been comforting me & he said he will take me out for my birthday because he also thinks my boyfriend is over reacting. But is it bad if I go? You don’t understand how much these tweets are helping me. Thank You. 27. May 2015

Please do not make this any more complicated!! I’m sorry I never answered your dilemma on time, I get several every single day.

Right, the break thing sounds ridiculous and you shouldn’t have contancted the guy who gave you the STI many moons ago. Having him try to speak to your boyfriend would never work. I get you want to sort this out, but on what planet would that help resolve things?? His decision to go on a break speaks volumes of where his head is at.

As for your birthday?? Are you REALLY sure that is something you want to do, with such a person. Be smart about it! I’m answering dilemma calls tomorrow so if you can call me.

 


Been with my boyfriend for just under two years now. When we were chatting last month, I made a comment about how I caught an STI when I was 16 (6 years ago). Obviously I dealt with the matter immediately. I have been completely clean since. I feel as though me telling him has put him off me. He isn’t intimate with me anymore and I keep finding him looking at me in disgust. I feel like breaking up with him before he breaks up with me. I can’t believe an STI I had 6 years ago is destroying our relationship. I love him & I can’t handle this feeling of feeling like a dirty little girl anymore.. What do I do?? 27. May 2015

You did nothing wrong by being honest with him. Most STI’s are cureable after taking prescribed pills or an injection and if you’ve been clean since he’s clearly still in shock.

Talk to him about how you feel since opening up? And remember thousands of sexually active young people under the age of 25 have been in your position.


Hi Oloni, I’m 24, been with my girlfriend for 4 years and I plan on proposing to her on our anniversary. Since we finished Uni I’ve been working and she hasn’t because I found a good job and she doesn’t really need to. However, recently I’ve noticed that she’s been putting on weight. I thought she was probably just bored at home so I asked her to find a job or something to do during the day and come to the gym with me but she refused. 6 months ago I got a personal chef to live with us who said that when I leave for work my girlfriend wouldn’t eat the healthier food. Fitness is very important to me and I feel if this keeps going it’s a dealbreaker. How do I encourage my girlfriend to live a healthier lifestyle? 27. May 2015

You talk to her about it and let her know your concerns with her health and living a healthier lifestyle in general. It’s nice you went out of your way to support her ao now you have to think of others ways to make this work if this is a deal breaker for you.


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