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Hi Oloni, just want to start off saying I love your blog and always sparks debates with me and my friends.
29. May 2015
Thank you x
Hi. I am scared that my boyfriend might be gay. I am very feminine and we have been together for almost a year. But he says weird stuff like telling his male friend to suck his dick, which I don’t really find funny. He has asked for me to do anal once, but I declined and he has not asked again. A friend of mine is gay and I hypothetically asked if he could ever see himself in a homosexual relationship, to which he said that nothing is certain and that no one can predict where they will end up:/. He acts like a “normal” black guy, but do you think he could be gay?? This is a big issue for me as being with someone who is unsure of their sexuality is definitely not for me!
29. May 2015
Hey! Many straight men do enjoy anal sex and many women enjoy receiving it. I understand why you feel this way as there are other signs that show why you’d be unsure of his sexuality. What I think you should do is talk to him about and ask him to be open and honest with you. See how that works and make your own decision as to whether or not you’d like to continue the relationship.
I’m getting married in a few months, but I think I still have feelings for my first love. I’ve always thought we would get back together in future, however things didn’t turn out that way and I’m now questioning myself if I’m fully over my first love, don’t get me wrong I love my fiancé but there’s still something in the back of my mind wondering what if. I still speak to him and we’re good friends and that’s why it’s confusing for me
28. May 2015
Hey love! You should think about getting married very carefully if you’re whole heart isn’t entirely in it. Having cold feetvis common, but thinking about another love whilst you’re about to make the biggest commitment of your life is not.
Speak to your fiance, and do not say ‘I do’ if you don’t.
Can you please answer my question on the clingy guy
28. May 2015
Post it again.
(New to this site, please answer) I’m in a dilemma. It’s probably obvious what to do but I just don’t think I can do it. So the guy I’ve been with for 2 and a half years (known him for 3) has changed so much. Like he used to be that sweet guy, treat me right etc however last year we started having a lot of arguments. Also to mention and don’t judge. He’s 27 and I’m 19. Probably a shock for some but he’s not like a pedo or what not pretty sure I would know about it. He’s generally so kind but things have fucked up. 1) me finding out he was on a dating site. He made out like his friends made it as a joke. Some friends they are. Obviously I made a big deal and wasn’t happy, left him after 2 months he came back all sorry and that and stupid me believes him. So then I got back with him and less arguments found he was still using it and adding pictures! This time he told me the app synchs with Facebook so silly me forgives him again. I know I should’ve told him to chose at that moment between me and the dating site but silly me wasn’t thinking. I love him too much to leave him he did treat me right but yeah kinda just pushed all that to the back of my mind and now after 3 months again we got back theory and things are calm, he’s not using that site but idk something doesn’t feel right. Whenever I talk to him it’s like talking to a brick wall and nothing ever gets resolved; hence us arguing all the time before. I just don’t know what to do. He goes out clubbing and stuff on weekends which fair play after a week of work it’s stressful I understand. HOWEVER. How do I know what he’s doing? The trust issues of the whole dating site scenario has lead me to believe all sorts. He likes girls pics on Insta and follows them which is another things that I just had to let go. When I’m with him tho things are different. It’s like a whole different guy. You can tell he cares does nice things buys me food whatever but I’m starting to think he’s using me for one things? We barely see each other! He thinks seeing me every 2/3 months is acceptable and he lives like a 35 minute drive from me!!! I’m starting to think when it suits him when he wants something he’ll message me and then be like yeah let’s link. I’ve had enough and it’s stressing me out. I don’t know what to do. I need advice?
27. May 2015
Girl, he is is playing you.. do the right thing and leave. I lost count with all the red flags he’s shown and I can tell YOU are fed up.
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