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Oloni please help, my boyfriend is still finding it difficult to open up to me. Basically him and his mother are not close (due to situations In his past I’d rather not say), but He’ll tell me stories on when he was younger but when I ask on his mum he’ll say little to nothing, goes quiet or changes the subject completely. I try to assure him I’m here for him but he refuses. What can I do, I need to know him in and out but he’s blocking me.
2. June 2015
This has to be a progression. Some people have parts of them that they can’t share, because no matter how close you are they’re still not ready. You can’t force it, but continue to be there and support him. Also, don’t nag him about it, he’ll only get annoyed.
I previously asked this question but it seems you didn’t reply. When I have sex it’s fine, second round it’s a bit sore inserting but bare able. Third time round I’m wincing in pain. Is it only me that experiences such or is there something I could use to help ease down there. Please answer, it’ll be helpful x
2. June 2015
Lot’s of women do, but i’d suggest you see a gynaecologist.
Hi Oloni, I asked the question on me seeing a guy for 10 months and there being no official title, thank you so much for answering but you said “If you’re behaving like his girl, he has no reason to make it official” I just wanted to know what did you mean.. So he doesn’t need to put a title because I’m already doing things like his girl without it?? Let me know, I want to ask him about it but don’t want come at him the wrong way. 🙁
2. June 2015
You’re acting as something when you’re not, which is the title of his girlfriend stop doing that and yes, talk to him about it. If he doesn’t want to take it there, then leave.
Hey Oloni Basically I dated this girl for 3months but the relationship was horrible because I didn’t have a job and I was struggling to get one in the field I was going too, she kept talking down on because I wasn’t a business minded person and compare me to her friends that already making it plus them how lazy I was. In March I broke up with her because I couldn’t take it anymore then the following day we had sex and I found out that she been sending nudes to her ex and they are still taking and this was the ex that she told me he treated her badly and slapped her across the street for dating me. We had sex on the 10th and on 15th mother day she told me she was pregnant, in my mind I said that no possible because we hardly had sex and that day was the first time we did it in our 3months relationship. Cut the long story short I found out she lied about it, the same way she lied about having cancer. She ran back to her EX and now the guy keeps making threats to me and she keeps calling me on & off when I call her back she keeps saying I don’t have your number that she didn’t call me. Have lost a good friend of mine because of her and she going on about her life without guilt over her shoulder because what she did to me. The last time she called I told her boyfriend about it but he didn’t really care at all. What should i do if she keeps calling me and playing all this childish games?
2. June 2015
This is so messy! Cancer is not something you lie about and she clearly has a few screws loose. You need to find out if she IS pregnant, and if the child may be yours regardless of the math you’ve done. I understand you don’t want to speak with her, but you need to talk to her and get to the bottom of things. Once that is resolved or if she still chooses to play childish games it’s 2015, you can block numbers with your eyes close.
Me and my boyfriend of three years broke up, I was so upset n angry I ended up having sex with someone else. Now it seems like me and my boyfriend are working thing out again but I literally thought we were done for good when we broke up. Anyway question is, do I tell him what happened with this other guy? I don’t think he’ll get over it. He was the only person I had sex with until recently. I feel like the thought of me being with someone else will hurt him. But he broke up me and left me in a state.
1. June 2015
You weren’t together, so what you did out of a relationship is not his business. I understand you might feel like it’s a secret, so if you want to tell him, it’s totally down to you. I just don’t see anything positive coming out of it.
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