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Hi so I need some advise.. I was a virgin when I met my bf he then took my virginity after a year of being together. We’ve been together for over 3 yrs now and the other day I told him that the sex is so much better now then it was at the beginning because I never used to climax back then but now he makes me climax multiple times. But his reaction was not how I hoped it would be, I feel like I’ve offended him 😕
5. June 2015
Uh, men & their fragile egos. Some guys still assume that each time they have sex with a woman she climaxes and it’s absolutely false. You did nothing wrong, but be honest and open with your partner about your sex life. Give him some time and bring it up, if he still feels offended explain that was not your intent. He’ll come around.
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend of nearly 4 yrs is currently serving 5 yrs in prison (has done 16months so far) and it’s been extremely hard. I’m 21 and he’s 23, we also have a 2yr old that I’m raising on my own right now. Before he went to prison, we definitely had our ups and downs and my main issue was due to him not appreciating and supporting me enough. I had to sacrifice so much once I found out I was pregnant right before I turned 19, and I always felt like I did so much to make things comfy for him but he never really supported me enough emotionally. Don’t get me wrong, he’s always been a good dad to our daughter but it’s like my needs were disregarded. Anyway right now with him being in prison, he’s had some time to reflect on certain things that has happened between us and has apologised to me on many occasions and I’ve forgiven him because I love him and I can see he’s truly trying to change for the better. He tells me all the time that he wants me to wait for him and that he wants to marry me when he eventually comes home and start a new life together which is what I want too. He’s expressed to me on many occasions that while he’s away he doesn’t want me talking to/seeing any guy, even male friends I had before he went to prison & he knew of. I live on my own with my daughter and it can be lonely sometimes especially when she’s away spending time with her aunties & I end up feeling tempted to call a guy friend over, not necessarily for sex but just to have some company as it’s been a really long time. I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend but I don’t know if I can continue to dismiss my needs. If you have any advice for my situation I would really appreciate it – Olivia
5. June 2015
You need to decide if you really want to wait for him to come out of prison. From what you’ve written you’ve mentioned mostly what he’s promised and what he wants, but what about you? Can you really commit to several years of waiting for someone who never gave the greatest impression before he was locked up.
The only answer I have is to put YOU and your child first. Do what makes you happy, do what makes you smile & do what won’t make you feel lonely for five years.
I sometimes feel my partner deserves better. We are both loyal but a part of me feels i dont give enough. Should i be worried? Any advice
5. June 2015
These are normal thoughts that run through the minds of some in a relationship. You simply wonder if you’re enough. This could just be a phase & if your partner has given you no reason to think this way, chances are you’re worried over nothing.
Your Mingling Soirée is 2 weeks before my 21st. I’m so bummed cause I need to meet someone nice loool. P.s keep up the great work!
5. June 2015
Come to the next one & thank you 🙂
Hi! So I’ve been talking to this guy for just over a month now and it’s going extremely well, we hit it off right from the start, we have quite a lot in common and we never run out of questions to ask each other. I really like him and he feels the same but last July he ended things with his girlfriend of 4 years. I’m not quite sure whether I should tell him that I feel like taking things to the next level or whether I should give it time as he was in a long-term relationship as we’ve only been speaking for a month. I don’t want to rush things but at the same time I don’t want to waste time waiting around. What would you advise me to do?
5. June 2015
It’s been a month, chill. You don’t really no anybody in the space of a month. Spend time together, go on dates etc. In another 3 months you may dislike the guy or grow fond of him more. My point is, don’t rush things.
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