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Hey. I’ve been with my mrs for coming on 9 months now. Everything is pretty good and we are happy together. One major stumbling block is that she thinks she should have the right to go through my phone as and when she wants and have all my social media passwords. When I have told her to stop she says she has every right to do so as that is a condition of being together. I think this is weird and creepy and I hate it when she does it. What’s worse is the only time she found something bad was going through the recycling bin folder where there were some nudes of my ex. And another time when me and my boy were bantering about past flings we have had. I keep telling her its not ok to go through my phone even if we are together but she seems to think different. It seems like a petty thing to break up a relationship but I won’t stand for it anymore. How do I put it to a stop.
10. June 2015
It is a petty thing to break up over, but if that’s the condition to being with her, you’re not really left with any other option. You’re boyfriend and girlfriend not husband and wife. Your privacy is your privacy and she has to respect that. Have a talk with her about it.
Hey, So my boyfriend n I have been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years. Everything regarding our relationship has been great! we hardly ever argue n if we do they last no more then 10 minutes. My problem is his ‘Best Friend’. If I take u back 3 years I met his best friend at an event I was hosting he attempted to get my number and I refused. From the moment I said No I was called all the names under the sun. He literally wanted to fight me due to the embarrassment of his friend’s devilish laugh when I responded. I had to have him escorted out if the building.. I met him again a year later once i was in a relationship with my boyfriend and he acted like he had never seen me before. I thought nothing of it. maybe he was intoxicated the night he acted like a fool. but as time went by he started making little comments regarding the outfit I wore that night and everytime I saw him he would repeat the same words I said to him. I started distancing myself from being at my bfs when he is there. I’ve spoken to my bf about it he then spoke to him and his conclusion was i got the wrong end of the stick. he purchased me interflora flowers to apologies which I thought was extremely strange. but my bf says it’s something he has always done and I shouldn’t look into it. 6 months ago I fell asleep at my bfs while he was at the gym and woke up to his best friend sitting inches from me watching me sleep. just there breathing heavy looking dead in the eyes. I FREAKED out giving him a piece of my mind. He proceeded in telling me he likes me,wants me and will get me. I left and told my bf he called him and he claimed he wasn’t even in london. I’ve been avoiding going to my bf’s but now his mum is becoming annoyed that I don’t go around often to visit her. I don’t know what to do!
9. June 2015
This honestly the oddest dilemma I’ce ever had, but it’s clear you literally have set an ultimatum. His best friend has disrespected you too many times. Sit the bf down and talk to him, you shouldn’t have to go through this.
Hi I’ve been seeing this guy in uni for about 7 month and due to his pior experience with girls he is finding it hard to trust me, like I haven’t been to his flat before and he’s always at mine and he has never taken me out cause he said that he ain’t trying to be bait and let people no his where about yeah proper paranoid. But anyways when he is with me I no for a fact he’s got feelings and I’m a priority but my own paranoia keep question these little bumps. He’s not active on social media, so it not like I can even do my own investigation and I am definitely not trying be used. So do I relax and see what happened after uni or just pressure him for the things I want and see what happens
9. June 2015
Unless he’s on some sort of run, his excuses sound very silly and scream ‘I dont want to spend money on you’. 7 months? This sort of patience should not be allowed and I highly doubt anything positive will come from this.
Hey Oloni, all my school life I lived in a all white area and its only when I came to Uni I’ve been hanging around other black people. It was a bit of a shock in first year as all I was used to was white my white friends but over Uni I have started mingling more with other social groups. Because of this, all my past relationships have been with white girls, and black girls seem to judge me because of that. Where I lived, in my social circle there wasnt any. People forget that the whole UK isnt as diverse as London. I really do want a black girlfriend and I always thought I would find one on my course, but my course is basically 98% male dominated. Uni is now over in a few weeks and family are always asking me about my relationship status as my siblings seem to have all found their other halves at Uni and started their lives after it.
9. June 2015
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Hi Oloni. Basically I have a really fucked up dilemma. I was with my ex for like 2 years on and off. It was the real deal and we were fully in love. However we were to young and the commitment we expected didn’t match our maturity level. We both did dumb things eg cheating talking bad to eachother etc. We broke up but I always wanted to get back with her. Always initiating convo telling her I love her etc. For over a year after a break up we would get together often and have sex do couple stuff etc. Until she revealed to me that she was still bitter and couldn’t have contact with me because she was stuck in a rut emotionally. That was about 4 months ago. Here is the plot twist. In that time I’ve landed my dream job, on the back of that I’ve launched a few projects I was working on whilst I was with her that have given me some online notoriety. It’s also led to me being invited to speak at a few events, some of which she was present at. I’ve also started boxing again and in quite good shape physically. I’m paid extremely well whereas before with her I was kind of broke. Now she has come back to me recently saying she can look past all my past mistakes and work things out with me. She tells me now how she loves me so much and that it has been painful being with out me. I’m not sure how much I can trust this as previously she was bitter for over a year and now within a few months she can look past everything. Is this too much of a coincidence? I do still love her but is she just seeing my success and wanting to be involved because of that. If I was still working in a bar she wouldn’t see me at these events or on youtube so I don’t know if she would think to get in touch. I really don’t know what to do, in an ideal world we’d get back together.
9. June 2015
This seems like you need to have a proper think and conversation. I don’t know her but you do. Is it in her nature to somewhat use people when it benefits her? Are these traits that she holds? Some people usually know what their partners are like in terms of that aspect. Talk with her and ask what’s changed. If the relationship was already bumpy, with a history of unhealthy behaviour no amount of success will make this a fairy tale ending.
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